Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
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30 days since i left him and although i feel strong and healthy, i still think alot about him and worry about how he is. I have not called to seen him, but he is almost always on my mind. I have to make the decision several times a day NOT TO CALL HIM. It is so hard and I am getting frustrated. Any one have any advise on staying gone?
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It gets a tiny bit easier every day. You don't notice as it's happening, but in another month, you'll be able to look back and see the progress since you wrote this. Stay dtrong in your deecision- when you catch yourself thinking about him, give yourself so much time to do it and move on to something else. You have to train your mind not to dwell on him. Time, time, time...
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Stay strong and don't call. Everytime I tried to be friends with my ex he would make me feel terrible again, manipulate my emotions and tell me I'm a bad person and friend. Its better this way. It gets easier. I still stuggle with wondering if he's ok but then I just think of all the times he never cared if I was ok and that makes me not call.
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I got a tip. Save every crappy message he has sent you. In a moment of weakness read them or listen to them. Store every crappy thing he has done to you in your mind and pull them up only when you need them. The rest of the time try not to give a jerk a second thought. I have 15 messages all calling me a whore and other choice words. They come in handy. If he does get a hold of you and he seems nice remember it all an act to suck you back in.
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I don't know but reading this gives me hope. Just the feeling stong and healthy part sounds AWESOME to me. Because when you are with an abuser you don't feel like that.
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i just wanted to say that you give me hope because i havent left yet and i always seem to make excuses and every time i do leave i promise not to get sucked in but before you know it there i am answering his calls you give me hope good luck.
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They say it takes 21 days to break a habit--and girl, he is a BAD habit.
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