Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I posted something Monday regarding my ex/childs father. He is not on any social media so the only contact we can have is through the phone. Well I erased his number after he sent me a nasty text message last week. He is living with his other child's mother until he gets back on his feet. They have two kids together and she doesn't want him to talk to anyone in the house while he is staying there or she will kick him out.
Well Tuesday night he called me and he called from a private number. I picked up the phone and it was him. He was trying to explain himself asking if I was okay. He was like i'm out of the house right now so I have a chance to talk. Well we started arguing and I told him you need to learn how to respect the mother of your child; don't talk to me any kind of way. He said he was not sorry for what he said and he was right about everything. He called me a nasty name which I will not repeat on here. He said I come off harsh ; but that's me you knew what kind of person I was when you fell in love with me. He said you will accept it. He said the same goes for my other children's mothers as well. I feel like i'm in a freaking cult. This is crazy to me! Its like he has all these children and he treats their mother's like property. Then this fool has the nerve to ask for sex!!! I'm like are you serious I am not sleeping with you!!! He is probably getting sex from her then wants to come to me and who knows who else he is messing with. I don't deserve this! The other day I was heartbroken but speaking to him I am so over it and done and I want him out of my life forever. Any amount of feeling that came back has left. What is wrong with this man
Well Tuesday night he called me and he called from a private number. I picked up the phone and it was him. He was trying to explain himself asking if I was okay. He was like i'm out of the house right now so I have a chance to talk. Well we started arguing and I told him you need to learn how to respect the mother of your child; don't talk to me any kind of way. He said he was not sorry for what he said and he was right about everything. He called me a nasty name which I will not repeat on here. He said I come off harsh ; but that's me you knew what kind of person I was when you fell in love with me. He said you will accept it. He said the same goes for my other children's mothers as well. I feel like i'm in a freaking cult. This is crazy to me! Its like he has all these children and he treats their mother's like property. Then this fool has the nerve to ask for sex!!! I'm like are you serious I am not sleeping with you!!! He is probably getting sex from her then wants to come to me and who knows who else he is messing with. I don't deserve this! The other day I was heartbroken but speaking to him I am so over it and done and I want him out of my life forever. Any amount of feeling that came back has left. What is wrong with this man
I do not have the energy or time to invest in figuring out my abusers issues. (Yes I loved them, still do, but I don't like them nor do I want to be around them any more-they treated my love and me like trash or a possession.)
I got a lot further without the added weight of other people's issues. One must deal with the feelings and scars that abuse inflicts and figure out ways to protect ourselves from picking another abusive person.
First, stop the abuse: Don't answer any more calls from numbers you don't recognize, let the voice mail get it.
I'm just glad I can come on here and vent my frustration ; and not be judged. I cant talk to anyone else about him because they cannot stand him. Maybe if we didn't have a child together it would get easier. A sane person cannot begin to understand the mind of a mentally crazy person such as him. I'm seeing a new counselor tomorrow and cant wait. Just ready to move on.