Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Me and my mom got in a fight yesterday. My mom told me to put my sister down and help her. I was trying to stop her from fussing and was failing. Lol. Mom told me again to put her down and I did. She said it once more and I told her she didn't have to gripe at me like last time (she did the same thing before and griped at me for 5 min). I then went to grab a rag from the drawer to help dry dishes. I opened the drawer and my mom shut it. (She already had a rag out and I didn't know that). I tried opening it several more times and she finally said to me if you open that drawer one more time I'll hurt you. She then grabbed my arm (I forget what I did) and I pulled away and fell on my back. I was ok. My mom got pissed at me and asked me what my problem was. Are you hungry. I told her while crying (I'd been crying since she grabbed my arm) that It was my pms week. My mom and sister didn't believe me and said I was using that as an excuse. My mom said that I had 2 min to pull my act together or she'd ground me for a month including my birthday. She said she'd make it miserable for me and enjoy every minute of it. My family didn't leave me alone for the rest of the day.
The other thing that happened with me and her was I saw my 4 year old sister and the baby on the back of the couch and I told them to get down before they hurt themselves and that the 4 yr old was setting a bad example. I told them stop a few more times then my voice got firmer and louder. My mom called me into the kitchen and asked me why I was being hateful (that wasn't my intention at all). I told her that the 1 and 4 yr old were on the back of the couch and that the baby shouldn't be up there because she could fall off. My mom responded back in a rude voice heaven forbid the baby fall off the couch. (There's a bar stool beside the couch that we use as a little table).
The other thing that happened with me and her was I saw my 4 year old sister and the baby on the back of the couch and I told them to get down before they hurt themselves and that the 4 yr old was setting a bad example. I told them stop a few more times then my voice got firmer and louder. My mom called me into the kitchen and asked me why I was being hateful (that wasn't my intention at all). I told her that the 1 and 4 yr old were on the back of the couch and that the baby shouldn't be up there because she could fall off. My mom responded back in a rude voice heaven forbid the baby fall off the couch. (There's a bar stool beside the couch that we use as a little table).
There is NOTHING
that you can ever
say or do that will
change the dynamic
(how things go)
between you and
your mother, at
this point in time
or all alone, by
yourself.
The good news
is that you're nearly
"legal age."
You're certainly
of an age where
getting great
counseling can
begin to make
a stunning difference
in your own life and
possibly in the life
of your siblings
and others.
I urge you again,
to reach out to
someone in the
counseling or
health office at
school or somehwere
in your various circles
whom you respect
and trust.
What you've described
about your homelife. . .
about your parents
and the danger
all your siblings
are in, is
worse than
horrible.
YOU, Sweetie, can
NOT effect what goes
on, all alone by yourself.
But you can begin
to protect yourself
and to change for
the better, how
your life will play
out in the future,
if you find the
right kind of
therapist to
partner with.
Sending you hugs
and prayers for
better things
to come.