Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Man, today I decided to call my sister who I have not talked to in a year or so. She never calls me so today I decided to call her and boy what a big mistake that was. She acted glad to hear from me at first. I asked her how she's been. She asked me how I have been and I said fine. Then she said " Are you still with him?" I told her no and really wasn't going to go into details at all but she asked me what happened. I started to tell her and she abruptly cut me off and said she had to go. She said she will call me later but she usually doesn't. My family has never been there for me and that is why I now feel like I should have never called her. I can't take feeling bad about myself and kicking my ass for even starting to talk about it to her. I should have said I don't want to talk about it. Hindsight is a B!! I shouldn't have called her at all.
Why did she cut you off?
It's not your fault that these people are toxic. Please don't blame yourself. I hear the pain in your posts and I totally can relate, though I am much much better than I used to be. Please take good care of yourself. Make yourself a priority. You have exactly the same right to happiness and good things as any of us on this planet! Take it!
Big hugs.
It took me a long time to start expecting people to do dumb things, and once I could say, "I'm going be nice and my brother might not be nice back." Then if he wasn't, it didn't bother me as much.
It doesn't seem like it should have taken me so long to figure out that if he's done this 20 times before he might do it again, but for some reason it would shock me all over again.
Maybe she did you a favor. Still hurts though...
Abandonment. Abandonment, as a sin against the Sacrament of Marriage, is defined as the abandoning of a child by a parent or both parents, to permanently depart from the childs life, or to give up completely on the child. A child is Gods gift to the parents; to abandon a child is to reject Gods gift! Children who lose a parent, they have been known to cry themselves to sleep at night. In the eyes of these children, they have been rejected, deprived of the love that they are entitled to receive as a child. Their tears cry out to Heaven, asking why this is happening to them.