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Ok, this is going to come across as really weird and for that I apologize, but I am feeling as if I will never get out from under my last ex.
I had mentioned how his mother contacted me by mailing a package to my fathers address with a letter (after we split up) which I found odd as I am not listed in the phone book and she had no idea that I recieve mail there?
I opened the package which had religious materials, read her letter, contacted her, had a brief conversation and we talked about her son in which even she said I was not at fault and her son had issues. She had no hard feelings with me and said he had a pattern of hurting women and that I did the best thing by not staying with him, that I was a good person and deserved a good man. Sooo, I figured after this talk we would be done, right? Wrong. :(
I in the meantime, CHANGED my cell phone number, made no contact with her or her son, went to my class I had in his hometown WITHOUT any contact with ANYONE he knew (2 days of that) and today I recieve another mailing. ARGHH...
A card with a nice little letter and more religious mailings, along with directions to a massuese as she had metioned in our conversation that they may help with my migraines and she enjoyed our conversation. The massause is in thier area.
What really struck me was that the card was addressed to me in my formal name, meaning my full name. One he never called me in front of her. The one on my birth certificate and the one he had called me the last time I had talked to him and he had left on my voice mails when he was upset with me and being condescending with me..you know how you Mother uses your full name when your in trouble? :(
I am not listed in the phone book.
What the?
It is also spelled correctly on the card and most do not spell it right. Sorry, I am just feeling very freaked out right now... :(
I had mentioned how his mother contacted me by mailing a package to my fathers address with a letter (after we split up) which I found odd as I am not listed in the phone book and she had no idea that I recieve mail there?
I opened the package which had religious materials, read her letter, contacted her, had a brief conversation and we talked about her son in which even she said I was not at fault and her son had issues. She had no hard feelings with me and said he had a pattern of hurting women and that I did the best thing by not staying with him, that I was a good person and deserved a good man. Sooo, I figured after this talk we would be done, right? Wrong. :(
I in the meantime, CHANGED my cell phone number, made no contact with her or her son, went to my class I had in his hometown WITHOUT any contact with ANYONE he knew (2 days of that) and today I recieve another mailing. ARGHH...
A card with a nice little letter and more religious mailings, along with directions to a massuese as she had metioned in our conversation that they may help with my migraines and she enjoyed our conversation. The massause is in thier area.
What really struck me was that the card was addressed to me in my formal name, meaning my full name. One he never called me in front of her. The one on my birth certificate and the one he had called me the last time I had talked to him and he had left on my voice mails when he was upset with me and being condescending with me..you know how you Mother uses your full name when your in trouble? :(
I am not listed in the phone book.
What the?
It is also spelled correctly on the card and most do not spell it right. Sorry, I am just feeling very freaked out right now... :(
I would stop contact with his mom as well. Although she may tell you she's on your side, believes he hurts women, it's still her son. I learned from divorce etc that no matter how rotten that SOB is, that is still their son, brother, father, etc.
I hope you can get beyond on this.
Since then, he has texted, called, etc, but I have not taken the bait and I decided to change my number as it was just getting to be too much between his blowing hot and cold and coming in and out of my life, plus and ex from three years ago not giving up.
I try to be strong but, two abusers, a toxic male friend and now this last exes mother, is just too much. :(
I honestly believed her as she is a devout Jehovahs witness and her son is everything that they do NOT practice, he has a highly addictive personality, including drugs, goes through woman the same, etc..I would not think SHE would tell me to stay away from her son if I was the "good" girl, as his friends are all like him and his ex girlfriend has cheated with him even while he was married. While I dont fault her totally as I feel she loves him beyond being blind, I just cannot grasp the concept of why his Mother continues to try to keep in touch with me?
I was real straight with her about him (other than bringing up the drugs as I felt she had knowledge of this anyway) and the fact that there would be no more chances with me. That I truly wished him the best and I had to take care of myself.
I had a hard enough time even being in his town to take my classes that I HAD to take, much less voluntarily go there to visit with her, or go to a massuase. I mean, I literally, packed a lunch, went to my destination, did not stop anywhere and went home.
Again, I am baffled how she knows my god given name?
i would cut contact with his mum, if she loves him blindly then he may use her to get information about you and possibly hurt you down the line. xx
(((hugs)))
My stbx's mother kept tabs on me too until I finally figured it out and blocked them all from my facebook page. I rarely ever post there anyway, and when I do, it's nothing important.
Also... they check up on me HERE. The last time I tried leaving he printed out every post and journal entry I ever made here and brought them to my domestic violence office, attorney, and court. Stay safe! Be sure to NEVER post anything in public that you wouldn't want to be found.
She may just wish that her son was safe in a relationship, it could be that innocent, but you never know
sending you support, good thoughts & hugs!
I was honestly shocked to get the card, letter and business card of the massuase with directions to the place, along with jehovah litarerature. It was as if she is not understanding that I cannot be around her? It is honestly not personal with me against HER, I feel every person is entitled to their own beliefs and religion, but I don't want it put upon me. Especially if I am not hurting anyone like her son is, selling drugs, having sex with mulitiple partners, and mind screwing people. I keep to myself and expect the same respect.
She knows this about me, why doesnt she send this stuff to the son's other girls? Or him, or his friends? Why Me? I am not doing these things?
Also I am not contacting any of them, him, his friends or her?
That is why I changed my number, did not accept friend requests on my facebook and removed any suspicious friends.
Sorry, just at a loss here. :(
Send the parcels back unopened. No contact with either of them.