Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Hi all,
So today I tried to encourage my wife. And it was met with hostility. I tried to tell her she can do the rope climb a certain way and she wasn't hearing it. Sh wants to train for an obstacle course race I've done. When I told her she had to do was a certain technique she proceeded to yell at me in front of our friends and tell me I didn't know what I was talking about and say that "she was fat". She pointed and yelled at me practically at the top of her lungs in our front yard.......I asked her what her problem was and she looked at me like I was crazy and said what am I doing? I was like your pointing and yelling at me in public for no real reason........she then tried to tell me she wasn't......she never thinks she is yelling or being disrpectful to me......all I was trying to do was give her some encouragement for something she wanted to do and this is the reaction I get......this is after she says I don't try and help her with her workouts. Has anyone ever experienced something like this. What am I to make of it?
So today I tried to encourage my wife. And it was met with hostility. I tried to tell her she can do the rope climb a certain way and she wasn't hearing it. Sh wants to train for an obstacle course race I've done. When I told her she had to do was a certain technique she proceeded to yell at me in front of our friends and tell me I didn't know what I was talking about and say that "she was fat". She pointed and yelled at me practically at the top of her lungs in our front yard.......I asked her what her problem was and she looked at me like I was crazy and said what am I doing? I was like your pointing and yelling at me in public for no real reason........she then tried to tell me she wasn't......she never thinks she is yelling or being disrpectful to me......all I was trying to do was give her some encouragement for something she wanted to do and this is the reaction I get......this is after she says I don't try and help her with her workouts. Has anyone ever experienced something like this. What am I to make of it?
She is definitely being disrespectful and abusive. I would tell her exactly what you expect...treated respectfully...not yelled at AT ALL (not just in public). In a normal relationship, individuals should be able to talk about issues and come to a resolution. In an abusive one, no way.
It's about her needing to feel
superior. She can't tolerate
that anyone else can do
something she hasn't
and certainly not the
target she's in the
habit of abusing.
She may have said
that she wanted you
to "help" her with her
workouts, but
she didn't mean it. . .
as her actions
clearly demonstrate.
It's just a way to start a fight and bring your spirits down, because, should you feel that you are doing something right, then...heaven forbid, you gain strength and start feeling good about yourself. Noooooo, that is not allowed!!!
I'm sorry. Just remember, it is not you, you are a good person, the way she treats you is in no way a reflection of you, but of her.