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emotionally detaching help

NewStart4me
NewStart4me
emotionally detaching is the only healthy way to go for me , that and no contact......
are there any links on here or elsehwere on emotionally detaching please? xxx
IleneW
IleneW
SELF-CARE

Put your focus on yourself
and your intereststs.

I'll bump the recent thread
where I shared some additional
index card excercises that help
with emotionally detaching.

And, of course, the Clarifying
Index Card exercise.

And then, more self-care!
beansprout
beansprout
just found this:

http://shrink4men.wordpress.com/2009/12/09/emotional-detachment-when-the-no-contact-rule-is-not-an-option/
beansprout
beansprout
thats more focused to men... but I suppose the priniciples are the same
deleted_user
deleted_user
To me detaching means no longer being invested in his problems or the outcome of his decisions or actions, to have your plan and know what you will do and how you will respond to him or in response to his behavior, and knowing you can't change him and not spending any of your time trying. Just stay focused on you and what you like to and want to do in your life., separate from him. And detaching is also letting him take responsibility for his actions, not trying to cover for him or save him from the consequences. Basically imo it means not needing to or wanting to control him in any way and not being focused on him or his needs, allowing him to take care of himself or not and to walk his own path, no matter where that leads him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I had to see him as he really was. I kept in my mind that he truly was a fake and didn't really love me, that it was all an act. I also had to focus on the fact that he will never change. He will always be an evil, lying, narcissistic bastard out for whatever HE wants at any given minute and I was only there to make him feel good and to show the world that he had a wife who "had his back". Just keep in your mind that if he really loved you, he would not have done _____ . Would you have ever done those things to someone you loved? They just aren't capable of putting someone above themselves and we are only there to serve their purposes.