Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I have been the victim of a viper, a serpent. My ex-emotional abuser was
very extremely charming in the beginning, then he kept yelling and screaming at me about very little things, then he kept picking and
picking and being scrupulous at very little things that he would then criticize, ridicule, and condemn. His poisonous words infected my body,
my life, my heart. I kept trying to achieve a perfect woman status with him, because that is what he was looking for........................................................a perfect woman.
I have been broken up with this awful viper since JULY.
He is currently dating another woman.
I don't know if I should feel jealousy or pity.
I have never in my entire life met a man that was so
evil as this man.
I dated him an entire year, and ultimately I
"failed" at proving to him that I was the perfect woman.
What part of the emotional abuse was worse; being treated
that way for a year, or being dumped??
I hope I survive this, and become a strong courageous
lady like the ones here at DS, because I feel like I've
been poisoned. Like it says on one of my
favorite songs, "he's candy coated misery."
very extremely charming in the beginning, then he kept yelling and screaming at me about very little things, then he kept picking and
picking and being scrupulous at very little things that he would then criticize, ridicule, and condemn. His poisonous words infected my body,
my life, my heart. I kept trying to achieve a perfect woman status with him, because that is what he was looking for........................................................a perfect woman.
I have been broken up with this awful viper since JULY.
He is currently dating another woman.
I don't know if I should feel jealousy or pity.
I have never in my entire life met a man that was so
evil as this man.
I dated him an entire year, and ultimately I
"failed" at proving to him that I was the perfect woman.
What part of the emotional abuse was worse; being treated
that way for a year, or being dumped??
I hope I survive this, and become a strong courageous
lady like the ones here at DS, because I feel like I've
been poisoned. Like it says on one of my
favorite songs, "he's candy coated misery."
You wrote:
He is currently dating another woman.
I don't know if I should feel jealousy or pity.
Feel pity for the unfortunate woman and relief for yourself,
for being away from the toxic reptile.
Now it's time to become healthier, and as FillieRaven so wisely said, don't go down this road again.
To do that, you need to do two things:
You need to build yourself up inside so you love yourself more than some abusive guy, and then you have to learn the subtle signs of candy-coated misery ----- the charmers who are just waiting for the moment you're caged to turn on you.
Best to you,
I formed a group here on DS called Overcoming Low Self Esteem http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/overcoming-low-self-esteem
You may also consider that you may have co-dependant tendancies and want to join the co-dependency support group.