That's very brave of you to come on here and speak of being abused (I am assuming you mean your wife). I am in the divorce process myself and a victim of emotional, mental and verbal abuse. I hope you find peace in your heart . Prayer has worked for me, my family and a get good friend. Hang in there

Yes I mean the woman I married...don't think she was a "wife"... I am sorry you were abuse... I hope that you are ok and don't struggle long... I am a big fan of marriage... always have been... I have hope someday

I'm sorry that in addition
to the abuse that sent you
to court in the first place,
you faced those kinds of
challenges when you got
there.

Abuse is not about gender,
it's about damage.

My father was another
victim of my mother's
abuse (along with her
children).

Please take very good
care of yourself.

Sending hugs
and wishes for
healing and
better days
ahead.

Thank you heal...

Some people just look for those which they can have an emotional advantage over..: manipulation and control... to bring others down to their level rather than elevating themselves.

Had a nice conversation on here last night... think I made a new friend. Opening up provides opportunities to relate to another...what an instant blessing

Very good advice Heal and yes you are correct that there is no gender specifics on abuse. Pismo21, not sure what state you live in, (no fault) but I hope you receive the retribution you deserve. I have been in an abusive relationship for 36 years. Tried to leave once when the kids were little. Thought maybe with counseling ( both martial and separate) things would improve, but he resented me even more for being stronger. Emotional abusers , statistically will never change (read this in so many books I read about emotional abuse).
Good luck with your outcome? I am in the middle of my divorce. Lots of bad days, but some good days...looking forward to being free from his control and lies. One day at a time! Or like I say, "put one foot in front of the other" ! Take care

I am in California... no fault... my divorce will be final this summer... I'm only dealing with gavevthe abuse as you are Cowgirl... 17.5 years but..: I'm ok... I had to divorce emotionally a decade ago! Stayed for my kids... now just making it square with the state!

Mine recently asked when I was planning to divorce. Really made me think. Thought about it in 2002 but didn't have support and resources and felt it best to stay for the kids. They are 19 and 22 and everything came to light for me. In the process of divorce and dealing with him and his family's toxicity has been draining. I look forward to being free from n a few months.

pismo21 good to see you on here. I hope you find the support you are looking for and kudos to you for reaching out, that can be difficult for men to do because of stigma and the double standard you reference. This site has been so helpful for me to not feel so alone. There is power in knowing that. I wish you all the best in your healing and your journey in moving forward. Take care and be well!

Thanks Strenghth... nice people on here... Just have to remember that there are good people that can affect you positively as well... too bad it's the negative ones that sometimes impact the hardest.