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Ok, not sure if anyone has had this happen but here goes. My ex abuser who broke it off with me in April and reinitiated contact just a few weeks ago via phone call, which I ignored, then email, I ignored and finally a text which I "stupidly" did not ignore. I sent a text and we ended up talking per phone eventually. I was given the I miss you. I was also given the I can do you a favor and drive you to a your nuero up in the city (he knows I don't do traffic) which at first I was going to do, but then after the support on here and a friend offering to meet me halfway and take me, I declined his offer and decided to go back to NC as I need to work on me and healing.
Now yesterday, I find a packet in my fathers mailbox. I do not have my own mailbox set up yet and I have no address of my own listed. So there is no way anyone could that did not ask a friend or family could be aware of my address. The packet was from this man's mother.
I was not even sure who it was from as I only met her once when he pushed me to meet her and she cooked dinner for us.
She is a devout Jehovah's witness. I have no issue with religion. He however does as he states she pushed it down his throat and he actually left home at 15 because of it. He also stated that he has left the house as an adult while visting with friends when she tried to push her religion on them. He is very bitter about it and very bitter about feeling like an outsider at school when they had holiday events and about never getting gifts as a child.
I was the only girlfriend who bought him gifts and he was so "Touched" he cried when I did so, that is how I found out all this.
Anyway, back to his Mom..the GIFT in the package was a pamphlet of the Jehovah's witness religion and a bible. She had enclosed a personal letter to me, and it was very odd.
She said she had been thinking about me and wondering how my foot was? Mind you, I have only met her once and this was back when I first started dating this man. I had been in a bad wreck and hurt my foot. This was back in August of last year. She has not seen or talked to me since. ODD? Ok, as she had dinner for us, I felt I should bring her a small token. I got her some nice windchimes for her home. The ex was a little miffed that I got her a gift as she is Jehovah..no gifts. I said, Well I am NOT and if she does not want the gift, she can give it to someone else as she sees fit. I am a giver, my nature. It was like HE was jealous. She loved the gift by the way and hung it in her home right away.
The whole visit and meal was very awkward, not for me and her, but between her and him..almost like a forced thing. There was no affection and it was like they barley tolerated each other. It was also like they competed over my attention, I would almost say like 2 narcissicists if I had gotten to know her better. Over who knew how to handle how to prop my foot better, what to take for pain, put ice on or now, etc.
The dinner was very good except she changed recipies from when she served it for him and he picked at it in front of me. He did not offer help clearing the table, I did and he was generally rude with her.
Anyway, here is the letter in context:
Dear,
How are you? I hope your foot is much better by now. I think of you often and wanted to say hello.
I do like my chimes you gave me. Thank you. :)
You'll appreciate this Bible. Its much easier to understand. There are many translations of the Bible. I like this one since it uses modern English.
You'll notice the name Jehovah used almost 7,000 times just as it was in the original Hebrew,& Greek language.
The book will be helpful as it takes bible subjects & shows where you can find the verses on that topic in the Bible.
If you have any questions please call me (inserts her phone number here)
*of which I had no way of having her phone number before or contacting her?)
Your friend
Her name
(also did not know her name, other than the fact that my exes alarm system is the coded in his mothers phone number, which now I have..haha, oh my ;)
By the way, her last name is different than my exes last name although his father died?
Anyway, so now my head is a complete mess, WTH?
ANY thoughts, advice, feelings on this are appreciated...
oh and by the way, two things that come to mind..when I was hurt and he came to see me at my place, he brought me flowers and said they were from his MOTHER...the stuffed animal was from him..She has a flower garden..
and the second time we got together, he brought me flowers hand picked once again, first time as an apology, from her garden, second time get well from her garden, third time, to visit me and to tell me his mother said hello from her garden..anyone get a weird feeling beside me about Mother?
Now yesterday, I find a packet in my fathers mailbox. I do not have my own mailbox set up yet and I have no address of my own listed. So there is no way anyone could that did not ask a friend or family could be aware of my address. The packet was from this man's mother.
I was not even sure who it was from as I only met her once when he pushed me to meet her and she cooked dinner for us.
She is a devout Jehovah's witness. I have no issue with religion. He however does as he states she pushed it down his throat and he actually left home at 15 because of it. He also stated that he has left the house as an adult while visting with friends when she tried to push her religion on them. He is very bitter about it and very bitter about feeling like an outsider at school when they had holiday events and about never getting gifts as a child.
I was the only girlfriend who bought him gifts and he was so "Touched" he cried when I did so, that is how I found out all this.
Anyway, back to his Mom..the GIFT in the package was a pamphlet of the Jehovah's witness religion and a bible. She had enclosed a personal letter to me, and it was very odd.
She said she had been thinking about me and wondering how my foot was? Mind you, I have only met her once and this was back when I first started dating this man. I had been in a bad wreck and hurt my foot. This was back in August of last year. She has not seen or talked to me since. ODD? Ok, as she had dinner for us, I felt I should bring her a small token. I got her some nice windchimes for her home. The ex was a little miffed that I got her a gift as she is Jehovah..no gifts. I said, Well I am NOT and if she does not want the gift, she can give it to someone else as she sees fit. I am a giver, my nature. It was like HE was jealous. She loved the gift by the way and hung it in her home right away.
The whole visit and meal was very awkward, not for me and her, but between her and him..almost like a forced thing. There was no affection and it was like they barley tolerated each other. It was also like they competed over my attention, I would almost say like 2 narcissicists if I had gotten to know her better. Over who knew how to handle how to prop my foot better, what to take for pain, put ice on or now, etc.
The dinner was very good except she changed recipies from when she served it for him and he picked at it in front of me. He did not offer help clearing the table, I did and he was generally rude with her.
Anyway, here is the letter in context:
Dear,
How are you? I hope your foot is much better by now. I think of you often and wanted to say hello.
I do like my chimes you gave me. Thank you. :)
You'll appreciate this Bible. Its much easier to understand. There are many translations of the Bible. I like this one since it uses modern English.
You'll notice the name Jehovah used almost 7,000 times just as it was in the original Hebrew,& Greek language.
The book will be helpful as it takes bible subjects & shows where you can find the verses on that topic in the Bible.
If you have any questions please call me (inserts her phone number here)
*of which I had no way of having her phone number before or contacting her?)
Your friend
Her name
(also did not know her name, other than the fact that my exes alarm system is the coded in his mothers phone number, which now I have..haha, oh my ;)
By the way, her last name is different than my exes last name although his father died?
Anyway, so now my head is a complete mess, WTH?
ANY thoughts, advice, feelings on this are appreciated...
oh and by the way, two things that come to mind..when I was hurt and he came to see me at my place, he brought me flowers and said they were from his MOTHER...the stuffed animal was from him..She has a flower garden..
and the second time we got together, he brought me flowers hand picked once again, first time as an apology, from her garden, second time get well from her garden, third time, to visit me and to tell me his mother said hello from her garden..anyone get a weird feeling beside me about Mother?
Livndadrem
No contact generally means no contact with their family and friends also. Yeah the whole thing is very odd - ignore it as you would ignore contact from him.
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