Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
So, after going through the super secret junk in his file box (and yes, most of it is junk), I'm no closer to finding hard evidence of cheating other than that envelope. Even the cards and letters were either empty envelopes or from me. However, I am sick at the amount of money this man blows through in a month. More money than I MAKE in several months.
Every single month he is depositing $6500 plus in one account and over $4500 in the other. Yet.l..at the end if the month, his balance is always around $100. His savings account balance at end if September? $129 so it's not going to savings. So where is he spending it? Lowes and Home Depot, speed unlimited, advanced auto parts, 7-11, walmart, kmart, mcdonalds, and many huge withdrawals from ATMs. (No idea where that cash is going). Now his company pays for his cell phone, his truck, and his gas. He only pays a total of $720 per month for bills here..$600 rent, $120 electric. NOTHING else. NOTHING. No wonder he refuses to pay more. It would seriously crimp his current lifestyle.
I'm just really disgusted. I mean I knew it somewhat, but seeing it in black and white is a totally different feeling. Grrr again!
Every single month he is depositing $6500 plus in one account and over $4500 in the other. Yet.l..at the end if the month, his balance is always around $100. His savings account balance at end if September? $129 so it's not going to savings. So where is he spending it? Lowes and Home Depot, speed unlimited, advanced auto parts, 7-11, walmart, kmart, mcdonalds, and many huge withdrawals from ATMs. (No idea where that cash is going). Now his company pays for his cell phone, his truck, and his gas. He only pays a total of $720 per month for bills here..$600 rent, $120 electric. NOTHING else. NOTHING. No wonder he refuses to pay more. It would seriously crimp his current lifestyle.
I'm just really disgusted. I mean I knew it somewhat, but seeing it in black and white is a totally different feeling. Grrr again!
One disturbing thing I forgot to mention is that, buried at the back of the file box, under the hanging folders, was a bag full of individually wrapped needles. Now, I'm not the greatest judge of character but I honestly don't think he's shooting up heroin. My bil is an addict and my h is nothing like that. However, he did used to have a problem with injecting steroids...many years ago. Even that, though, I am not seeing the signs of that. When he was doing those he became horribly phusically violent and even more volatile and unpredictable than usual. It was awful even for him!
I'm just so confused about all of this. My mind refuses to wrap around the "clues" and none of it makes sense to me. I feel like I'm an idiot and I'm missing something that should be obvious. And oh how I wish I could get into his shop to investigate because I have a feeling what is here doesn't scratch the surface of what there IS.
Maybe he forgot the bag was there after he stopped using the steroids? Or maybe - I don`t want to panic you - but maybe he has been using them a bit? I remember you saying he got very aggressive in the Wal-Mart parking lot quite recently.
They could be unrelated, and it`s just a guess. Please be careful, and whether or not he is on things that could make him more aggressive, it probably wouldn't be a good idea to confront him about any of this. I`m not saying you would, just want you to be safe given the discoveries you are making that might understandably make you feel very strong emotions. He sounds extremely dangerous.
It is SO unfair that he is going through so much money while leaving you to cope with everything practical. Please vent as much as you need to here! Hugs xxx