Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Have others experienced, while with the abuser, intense psychological issues such as adhd (or just it being almost impossible to concentrate), ocd, agoraphobia (or feeling so crazy-flustered from the trauma, and feeling self-conscious about walking around that way in public, e.g. from running out the door being chased down by abuser), difficulty communicating/social anxiety or even phobia, etc.?
I am in an abusive situation (with parent), and I have all of these issues very intensely. So it SO hard for me to leave (i.e. use/figure out my resources, form social connections/get help, etc.). It just occurred to me recently that this is probably THE #1 Issue for people in abusive situations trying to leave, when you have so little resources/connections already. Also, I feel a lot of shame about the way I end up acting (like in public I'm like inadvertantly glaring at people from the hypervigilance, stopping a lot in the middle of the sidewalk cuz it feels like my head is spinning, etc. And when talking to people, often I act like that scared little girl that gets triggered by the abusive parent and I have difficulty communicating, while when I am calm, I am totally mature, intelligent, and articulate). Anyone relate to any of this stuff, like while they were with the abuse (or if you are still in it)?
I am in an abusive situation (with parent), and I have all of these issues very intensely. So it SO hard for me to leave (i.e. use/figure out my resources, form social connections/get help, etc.). It just occurred to me recently that this is probably THE #1 Issue for people in abusive situations trying to leave, when you have so little resources/connections already. Also, I feel a lot of shame about the way I end up acting (like in public I'm like inadvertantly glaring at people from the hypervigilance, stopping a lot in the middle of the sidewalk cuz it feels like my head is spinning, etc. And when talking to people, often I act like that scared little girl that gets triggered by the abusive parent and I have difficulty communicating, while when I am calm, I am totally mature, intelligent, and articulate). Anyone relate to any of this stuff, like while they were with the abuse (or if you are still in it)?
I can tell you first hand that being around any kind of yelling or potential for physical violence makes me want to leave, be quiet, or sometimes hide. I can't sit there and face it, or even yell back. My mind drifts, and I just want it to be over. I don't even want to defend myself, because I don't even understand what I am defending myself against. I just want to leave. And it makes me timid around other people. I usually can't eat, can't concentrate, can't relax. I'm facing a huge dose of that right now.
I certainly hope the best for your situation, and I recommend talking to a professional therapist, or just venting and asking questions here. You need an outlet and support.
Take care.