Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I'm on day 3 without him. Yesterday was stirring mix of emotions. Waves of joy and relief and waves of over whelming sadness.
My brother took me out last night to get my mind off things with some other friends. I was having such a good time. Not worrying about calling him or getting a phone call with someone on the other line sulking and/or mad I wasn't with him. My mind would wander to him and I would get sad for moments but then I would bring up something awful he did or said to my friends. They would remind me that I DO NOT need him in my life.
Then....of course, he started texting me. "He just didn't feel right about how things ended. And he was so sorry and could we please just talk. How he is lost without me. BUT...Couldn't I see why he had gotten so angry. And when I insult him, it sends him into battlemode." Why is nothing EVER his fault. EVER. I am so sick of this! I keep thinking I can talk to him and make him see my side; the wrong that he's done. I don't know why I even try. I need to just let go.
Then he found out I was out with my friends..And started in, "sorry to bother YOU while you're out partying and don't even care that we broke up" "I should of known you'd be drunk" And then today, "you know you're drinking is destroying us". I said, "You're temper is destroying us" Well, Shocker, that made him mad.
He wanted to see me today. I said No. He wants to talk tomorrow. The stress is pouring back in..
My brother took me out last night to get my mind off things with some other friends. I was having such a good time. Not worrying about calling him or getting a phone call with someone on the other line sulking and/or mad I wasn't with him. My mind would wander to him and I would get sad for moments but then I would bring up something awful he did or said to my friends. They would remind me that I DO NOT need him in my life.
Then....of course, he started texting me. "He just didn't feel right about how things ended. And he was so sorry and could we please just talk. How he is lost without me. BUT...Couldn't I see why he had gotten so angry. And when I insult him, it sends him into battlemode." Why is nothing EVER his fault. EVER. I am so sick of this! I keep thinking I can talk to him and make him see my side; the wrong that he's done. I don't know why I even try. I need to just let go.
Then he found out I was out with my friends..And started in, "sorry to bother YOU while you're out partying and don't even care that we broke up" "I should of known you'd be drunk" And then today, "you know you're drinking is destroying us". I said, "You're temper is destroying us" Well, Shocker, that made him mad.
He wanted to see me today. I said No. He wants to talk tomorrow. The stress is pouring back in..
Abusers NEVER find fault with themselves because they DO NOT see anything wrong with their behavior. If they DO see something wrong with their behavior, then, they JUST don't care how that impacts their loved ones.
We unfortunately cannot change them or get them to see their abusive behavior. They can't, and/or won't, for many different reasons...
You can stay strong. You are strong.
(Abusers HATE to lose their victim.)
What do YOU want?????
thank your LUCKY STARS he doesn't want you back! Would you want a monster back in your life?
(some abusers move quickly onto their next easier victim, clearly, and luckily for you, Kai23, this is the case so you don't have to deal with him...however, watch out...you may just get a phone call soon...)
If they've lined up another
victim whom they're confident
they've got reeled in, then they'll
let go of the last one.
But when the new victim realizes
what she's signed up for, and
starts complaining, they often
go racing back to the previous
victim.
Please remain strong.
Best wishes to you for strength & courage!