Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
It has been a really long time since I been on the site and feel that not being on it has made me feel alone. Not sure really were to begin things seem to get worse each day and everything is completely my fault . It seems as if it always is. The little things piss him off and he always brings it to a higher level then it needs to be and when he drinks forget it he is an angry drunk. Always telling me how I suck at being a mother and that his life would be better with out me in it . Nothing I ever do is good enough for him . It's like he get's off on it. I always ask if he is getting hard when he strarts with me because i swear he gets off on it. I really dont really to much eles because I will never be right or win the fight . I have to get back to work but I will be on here much more to let it out . Its like silent tears but you all can hear me . Thank you for even listening to me vent a little . This is just a small piece of what I have to endue each day .
I agree with the above posts - you know why? Because if you are out of his life, YOUR life will be that much better without HIM and his abusive behaviour in it!
Don't tell him what you are planning, or that you think he is abusive (those things put you at greater risk). But one day, after a lot of secret getting-ducks-in-a-row, do EXACTLY that: leave.
You don't deserve this; you deserve an abuse-free life with your child/children.
And he deserves to see what it`s like when his behaviour has consequences, as all abusers do. It`s not unfair; it`s nothing you wouldn't teach a child growing up anyway. You touch fire, you get burned. You abuse, you are probably going to get left and/or disciplined by the law because it`s wrong. People don`t have to stick around for the kinds of things you told us he`s doing.
Take care of yourself and your kids xxx
Take good care of yourself and if you aren't already, get into counseling with a qualified therapist who understands & specializes in the dynamics of & recovery from abuse.
And keep posting here!
He has issues, but i know no one can convince you of that, back then, I was never convinced no matter how my closest friends did everything they could to make me face the truth. Also, stop being the victim. You don't have to endure anything. You always have a choice to leave for your sanity's sake. :-)
I'm so sorry for what
you're going through.
I know it can take
a while to decide
to leave and then
put a plan into place.
Sometimes we leave
and go back and then
have to leave again.
Where in your journey
to freedom are you,
at this point?
This:
(800) 932-4632
is the number for the
women's coalition in
your state. Please
give them a call.
Life can be better
than it is, living
under the
roof of abuse.
Please consider
talking with
someone, there.
Sending you hugs
and healing prayers.