Momx3a, Don't be too hard on yourself, your so strong really. You were with him for quite some time and you lived with him too. I still have photos of my last ex on my phone and occassionaly look at them and hate that I do that. I need to delete them as well but can't find the strength. I also have emails and photos in my email. I am hoping with more therapy and once I start getting out more and living more, I will find the strength.
I guess I just wanted you to know your not alone in this. BIg, big hugs...

Good idea!! Go you!

My ex was so wierd she would not let me have any photos of her. I took one photo that had her in the background and she wanted me to delete it (but I saved it - and probably still have it on my hard drive). I didn't do anything with the emails she sent - just let them sit far down on my inbox because I could not deal with it. Eventually, i just did a search and delete - took all of 15 seconds.

I did the do not look album thing too!

Hi Mom,

Don't be hard on yourself. You have been through a lot this week... You will do it when you are ready. :)

Yeah it's not big deal. I have a new phone now so no pics but I have pics in my old phone that I never deleted and also I have photos in an album that I've kept.

When I look at them now I feel differently anyway so I don't need to get rid of them. I don't feel sad when I see them, I just figured that they are memories of good times too and I'm not prepared to erase a big chunk of my life because the man I loved started abusing me.

That part of my life belongs to me, for me to do what ever it is I want to do with it and abuse isn't going to dictate my decisions any more! So yeah keep the pics and hide them away, and if u want to delete them at a later date then do so, if u don't no big deal because you'll have your reasons!

I've still got all my cards and love letters from years and years ago off my ex! I like to remember the man I once loved and who was once good to me (even if it was a lie and I was being lied to from the start and brain washed) to me it was real because I felt the love for him so I remember him but have let him go as if he passes away, I grieved for him, he's someone I once loved, he's a reminder that I am capable of loving someone with all my heart. The difference is is that I've reached a place of peace with loosing that man (even thou he was never real) and its ok to let them go for your heart.

Let them go from your heart ***

I think that's a great idea, well done. That took strength. You will delete them when you are ready ... or not. You are in control now, you are doing what you need to do for you. And making great progress.