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AndreaBEE
AndreaBEE
So I did answer the phone today and boy was he a jerk. All the blaming and rationalizing that came out of his mouth was AMAZING. I learned something, never argue with an abuser because the way they see things are so twisted, still blaming me for leaving him, said I was not nice. The good thing is I am getting closer every day to blocking his number.

My new jewelry business has really helped me to focus less on him. It keeps me busy and I am making a little money.

When will I block his number and not feel I need some kind of connection to him. I don't know, its been 7 months. My therapist says I will do it in time.

Thanks for listening friends. I am feeling frustrated today and it's only 9:00 in the morning here.
ElenaNJ
ElenaNJ
Im glad you didn't fall into his trap AndreaBEE. One day you will block his numer for sure.

And making your own jewelery to sell, that's great.

I find that since I've been going to therapy, it has helped me think clearer and bring on some never felt emotions...a big help. thanks for sharing your post. I hope you feel less frustrated and can manage a smile today.
AndreaBEE
AndreaBEE
I am feeling better, just some anger toward him and I guess that's good. I can't sometimes believed how I was conned by him and that sometimes I feel the need for him, to talk to him or to be close. It's just frustrating. Really, I'm kinda glad I had a conversation with him today because I am seeing (right now) what a manipulator he is.
Joanieslegacy
Joanieslegacy
AndreaBEE, I am sorry your having a hard time with NC. I just wanted to say it is a tough thing for me as well. I can maintain it for awhile, but he seems to always find a way around it and once he gets through to me, I am caught back up with him.
:(

I am glad your finding your therapist helpful. I tried it for a few sessions but due to my issues and the problem I have with living in a small town and people being able to know ones' business, well I stopped going.
I can try to bury myself at work as well, but on slow days its hard not to get wrapped up in the why of everything and trying to put myself first, instead of my ex abuser.
I wish you peace and strength.
FarAndAway
FarAndAway
One tends to wonder why he is calling you when he is in the throes of a new love affair. What's up with that? Blocking his number sounds like a great option. You have the distinct advantage of many miles between you. That must be a comfort.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are starting to learn how to take care of yourself, this is good ! It's really good you are going on with your life. The longer he still has a way get in touch with you, the longer he will be in your life, and find a way to keep some control over you..You need to heal, and move on. As long as you have any communication with your ex, he will be hindering your chances to be free of him, and have an excuse to still have control over you. This is your choice. I am just speaking from experience. Your top priority is your safety, mental health, and peace of mind. You are on the right path now, good luck with your new business.