Hi All,

I need an unbiased view of what is going in my life!!

I was in abusive relation for quite a longggg time and came out of it and got married to someone who loves me like anything and have been blessed with a baby girl who is now six months old.

Some past events that happened -

My family had convinced me that I should come back to near they are. I had been in a very bad position in the abusive relationship and needed to get away from that city.
When my DH and I got engaged, I told him I will be taking a transfer to near my parent's place. He agreed and after sometime we got married and "I" moved to city near my hometown. My hubby on the other hand was sure of his transfer till last minute but after good six months, his transfer was declined. We fought as he said he is getting transfer but 5 hrs away from the city I was in. I talked to my parents, who said that it doesn't make sense to not come to my city and I agreed.
I talked to my hubby, we fought and I said it's high time to take a decision. He resigned and came to my city.
His career took a downfall and he got very lowly offers, finally he took one one designation lower in a non reputed company than what he was. Our fights became a daily thing. It felt like we had made a bad choice by marrying eachother. But somehow we stuck together as we both loved eachother too much.

Finally, his career seemed stable but salary was 1/10th of what he was paid but he loved his work. So we were back to happy couple and had our first baby, baby girl.
My father now retired agreed to live with us with my mother for an year to take care of the baby as I had to join back after Maternity Leave for financial stability.

The past six months

I was exclusively bf my baby and it was tough, really tough but I wanted to go that extra mile for her health and my hubby was also having the same view.
So he started sleeping out and my mom and I would sleep with the baby whom I will feed and she would take care of her when she would cry etc.
So in short, it was hectic for me and mom.
After initial 2-3 days my parents started saying that we should introduce bottle and we are keeping our baby hungry.
While I was over producing the milk so definitely there was no shortage there.
My Mom kept pestering me saying things like your sister and I never bf our babies and they turned out to be fine(my sister's daugher is stick thin and underweight).
They would say that my sister's husband used to take care of baby at night while my husband was sleeping peacefully outside. (My hubby had taken one month off during my ninth month as the baby was under weight and he took care of my food, exercise etc on daily basis so when she was born he had to work from 9 am to 11 pm to compensate the timeoff he had taken).
Again, me and my husband started to fight. I said I can't do all this alone. He said that he will not allow stopping bf for such a small baby. I agreed that since I can produce more than enough bf why to stop feeding it to my baby. But I had to hear daily from my parents who would either compare my sister's family and mine or would say that my hubby just cares for himself.
After 2 months, I stopped bf (worst decision I ever made) and my hubby gave in.
My baby who was gaining perfect weight started going under weight again. At six months she is 1 kg below what her weight should be :-(
Even the doctor we consulted was against my decision of giving up bf.

At 4 months, my husband moved back in and now I had to join back office. So we took care of the baby for 3 nights and my parents for 4 nights as we both were working all day. At 5 months we took over and she was sleeping with us 7 days a week, where either me or my hubby would feed her at night while both of us are working during the day.

Some events that happened and they are the ones I need you unbiased view about

1. One evening I was really tired after a full hectic day in office and I asked my Mom to let the baby sleep with her for one night as I was not sure if I can even wake up to feed her bottle. Her answer " Just for one night". I said thanks for the tone and I will sleep with the baby. She started crying infront of dad and dad was angry at me for making her cry. I hugged her and made her feel OK.

2. My daughter has started semi solid and we give her water with it. Though me and my hubby do everything from bottle sterilizing to cooking baby food so that my mom can feed her during the day. One fine day she came to my hubby and said she is awake and went. My hubby was doing some work and so did not do anything thinking my Mom or Dad will take the cooked food and feed her. An hour passed and they did nothing. So he got up and gave the food to my mom in a container and went back. I came home after 3 hours from then and fed her and went to get water for her and then realized she was not fed water all day!!!! I asked my hubby who did not realize that he had not given water to my Mom to feed it to the baby. While my mom said that they could not find water though it is always kept on table with bottle. All you have to do is pour it. Now we even put the food in a container and put water in the bottle in morning only and put it near them.

3.I come home in the evening and all the time my mom gives me is to take a bath and give the baby to me and goes to her room and watches tv/reads magazines etc. Even single glass of water is not offered.

4.She will call my sister and tell her that they are seeing how this world truly is and how they are learning new things everyday.

Please give me your views on this.Please do.