Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
this broke my heart tonight
My 6 year old daughter...
I picked both of my kids up from daycare after work.. and as usual I cked her bag for homework... Jeez they give alot of homework for 1st graders...
anyway.. she siad mommy I have a present for you.... and handed me a flat package that was wrapped... So I opened it .. and it was a book she made at school..thats says
"My Christmas Wishes"
My X-Mas Wish for me is a x-mas barbie... (and then she said.. but I know mamma, its ok if I dont get it cause is too expensive)
My wish for my mom is pajamas :) (I am not sure why.. :) shes 6
AND THIS IS THE PART THAT KILLED ME.. (I HAD TO HOLD BACK SOBS) WHEN I READ THIS..
My wish is for my dad is to just stay home for x-mas. (so I asked her when I got myself together.. why did u say that J? and she said well he is always working (when he leaves to go drink or go out. he tells them he is going to work, nice huh?)
OMG
my god... how does he do it to them?
I mean the guy when he works during the summer workds long hours... but even then.. he would stop somewhere after work to have a beer even if it meant only 5 min that he got to see the girls...
Its got to the point.. where .. if he isnt here.. they dont ask about him, they dont ask to talk to him, nothing...
How does he live with himself.. doing it?
and How do I live with myself, by staying?
My 6 year old daughter...
I picked both of my kids up from daycare after work.. and as usual I cked her bag for homework... Jeez they give alot of homework for 1st graders...
anyway.. she siad mommy I have a present for you.... and handed me a flat package that was wrapped... So I opened it .. and it was a book she made at school..thats says
"My Christmas Wishes"
My X-Mas Wish for me is a x-mas barbie... (and then she said.. but I know mamma, its ok if I dont get it cause is too expensive)
My wish for my mom is pajamas :) (I am not sure why.. :) shes 6
AND THIS IS THE PART THAT KILLED ME.. (I HAD TO HOLD BACK SOBS) WHEN I READ THIS..
My wish is for my dad is to just stay home for x-mas. (so I asked her when I got myself together.. why did u say that J? and she said well he is always working (when he leaves to go drink or go out. he tells them he is going to work, nice huh?)
OMG
my god... how does he do it to them?
I mean the guy when he works during the summer workds long hours... but even then.. he would stop somewhere after work to have a beer even if it meant only 5 min that he got to see the girls...
Its got to the point.. where .. if he isnt here.. they dont ask about him, they dont ask to talk to him, nothing...
How does he live with himself.. doing it?
and How do I live with myself, by staying?
Best of everything to you.
Take care of yourself and the children.
(You're right about self-forgiveness.)
Ilene
Hugs to you!
I have come to realize that they are just not capable of feeling normal human emotion. EVERYTHING is wrapped around them. EVERYONE in their life is there for their convenience. Parents, spouses, siblings, and yes, children.
I was in court yesterday. My stbx h as real back problems, that cause him a lot of pain, and it was obvious that they had flared up again, as he could barely walk or stand. I was feeling a little sorry for him in a detached kind of way....Then I had to testify about how the man used our son to get me to do what he wanted, and how he was proud of it, and they wanted an example, which I gave them. And when I was done, I looked at him, and thought, "If your back hurts you like this the rest of your life, it won't be anything compared to what you have done to your own son."
Just continue to love your kids unconditionally, no matter what, never give up on them. Because you will be their rock to stand on, you will be their source of strength, the love you give them will teach them that no matter what anyone says they are people worth loving, and will therefore have self esteem.
And I know, from reading what you have written, that this comes to you naturally.....YOu are a wonderful mother, and because of it, your kids will be ok.
Hugs to you......God bless you.