Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I will try to be short
in May 2017 i met a young girl Margarita from my country and she was studying on the usa. She was lonely and we were chatting and listening music with a whole bunch of people from the same country and it was so much fun. I never had children I was 50 and this young girl was 18. I took her into my wings because she was going with some emotional issues , her parents are well known in my country because they are wealthy and owns many things. i thought her parents are busy on their business and this young girl confide on me everything. she began calling me auntie. at the en of 2007 I was back to my country for holidays when i got an invitation from her older sister to accept her on msm as her friend. I email my adopted niece about it and she said its ok, you can accept my sister. which i did.
I had made a good friendship with another person on that chat who is an specialist Dr and he is also from my country and i told him about margarita and he said he would like to email or msm her, i told him i will ask her about which i did and her response was if he is trustworthy then give him my email He made an email and sent to me before he sent to her and i gave the ok.
Well when i receive the invitation from her sister i forward that invitation to margarita and the dr. I came back from my country on Jan 2008 and i see margarita's sister on msm and finally one day we talk no more than 5 minutes. a few weeks later margarita text me saying why i did that, i said what? she said I had made a bet with my sister that you were correct and she said lets prove that, that is why she made that email on msm only for you. and that her sister got an email on the Dr's name except one error on the last name. That proff that i was not correct because nobody knew about that email than me.
I told margarita that invitation to her and to the dr, that it was not me only who khew that email. She said her sister gave her proof that that email came from my ip. I remember on those days having problems with my computer as if somebody was on it.
to my surprise i found from the dr that her sister have 2 doctorates en computer from Japan and another from England and she have a company who help the usa government with the security of the computers.
Anyway the evil sister became very good friend with the dr and she invited him to her wedding, she married a billionaire from Miami.
the dr also was invited to margarita's wedding in New york who also married the son of the richest family on usa.
plus he also went to 3 more weddings on that family and today he is at the wedding of margarita' mother.
I told margarita I didnt do that email and she doesnt believe me, since 2008 she still email me but i havent met her because she thinks I am lying and she rather believes her sister.
This cause me so much pain because I am 100% sure i had nothing to do with that. the funny thing is that at the wedding and parties they had for her before and at the wedding she mentioned me that i teach her so much etc etc and that she missed me. The dr had gone to her mansions and she show him an album she have of me and the pictures i sent to her. I also have an album with her pics. We are so similar and the dr says she really looks like i am her mother for the similar we are.
She did not invite or told me of the marriage or engagement, but she invite my friend the dr., she adopted 2 kids since she married on Dec 1/2013 and she havent told me, but she began emailing me again since Oct of 2015 because the dr told her i had suffer a lot and that she should talk to me again.
I need to let this go because its 9 years since i had talking to this girl and i haven't met her, the Dr met her in 2008 and many many times after that inclusive 5 wedding on her family including hers that he had gone.
who made that email, i dont think it matter anymore, i know i didnt do it and that my conscience is in peace about that.
I had let this go to long, i think, i love margarita and she said she loves me, but its not showing . I feel sad that people are this way. , sorry for the long posting but i need to explain what is going on and its a long story i think its time not to reply anymore emails and leave this for ever. I dont know about the dr, he is enjoying his new found life | introduce him to that. I got the worse part of all. All i want is some acknowledgement like sorry for not trusting you but my sister. i have no proff that you did it but my sister can hack any computer.
in May 2017 i met a young girl Margarita from my country and she was studying on the usa. She was lonely and we were chatting and listening music with a whole bunch of people from the same country and it was so much fun. I never had children I was 50 and this young girl was 18. I took her into my wings because she was going with some emotional issues , her parents are well known in my country because they are wealthy and owns many things. i thought her parents are busy on their business and this young girl confide on me everything. she began calling me auntie. at the en of 2007 I was back to my country for holidays when i got an invitation from her older sister to accept her on msm as her friend. I email my adopted niece about it and she said its ok, you can accept my sister. which i did.
I had made a good friendship with another person on that chat who is an specialist Dr and he is also from my country and i told him about margarita and he said he would like to email or msm her, i told him i will ask her about which i did and her response was if he is trustworthy then give him my email He made an email and sent to me before he sent to her and i gave the ok.
Well when i receive the invitation from her sister i forward that invitation to margarita and the dr. I came back from my country on Jan 2008 and i see margarita's sister on msm and finally one day we talk no more than 5 minutes. a few weeks later margarita text me saying why i did that, i said what? she said I had made a bet with my sister that you were correct and she said lets prove that, that is why she made that email on msm only for you. and that her sister got an email on the Dr's name except one error on the last name. That proff that i was not correct because nobody knew about that email than me.
I told margarita that invitation to her and to the dr, that it was not me only who khew that email. She said her sister gave her proof that that email came from my ip. I remember on those days having problems with my computer as if somebody was on it.
to my surprise i found from the dr that her sister have 2 doctorates en computer from Japan and another from England and she have a company who help the usa government with the security of the computers.
Anyway the evil sister became very good friend with the dr and she invited him to her wedding, she married a billionaire from Miami.
the dr also was invited to margarita's wedding in New york who also married the son of the richest family on usa.
plus he also went to 3 more weddings on that family and today he is at the wedding of margarita' mother.
I told margarita I didnt do that email and she doesnt believe me, since 2008 she still email me but i havent met her because she thinks I am lying and she rather believes her sister.
This cause me so much pain because I am 100% sure i had nothing to do with that. the funny thing is that at the wedding and parties they had for her before and at the wedding she mentioned me that i teach her so much etc etc and that she missed me. The dr had gone to her mansions and she show him an album she have of me and the pictures i sent to her. I also have an album with her pics. We are so similar and the dr says she really looks like i am her mother for the similar we are.
She did not invite or told me of the marriage or engagement, but she invite my friend the dr., she adopted 2 kids since she married on Dec 1/2013 and she havent told me, but she began emailing me again since Oct of 2015 because the dr told her i had suffer a lot and that she should talk to me again.
I need to let this go because its 9 years since i had talking to this girl and i haven't met her, the Dr met her in 2008 and many many times after that inclusive 5 wedding on her family including hers that he had gone.
who made that email, i dont think it matter anymore, i know i didnt do it and that my conscience is in peace about that.
I had let this go to long, i think, i love margarita and she said she loves me, but its not showing . I feel sad that people are this way. , sorry for the long posting but i need to explain what is going on and its a long story i think its time not to reply anymore emails and leave this for ever. I dont know about the dr, he is enjoying his new found life | introduce him to that. I got the worse part of all. All i want is some acknowledgement like sorry for not trusting you but my sister. i have no proff that you did it but my sister can hack any computer.
The only way we can get closure is from within.
First go No Contact with all of them. Block them from your phone, email, social media, etc. Delete all of your social accounts (like msm, etc). And then you can open a new account with a very different user name.
Next, take your computer to a reputable technician and ask them to look for any signs of hacking &/or spy/malware and remove it. Then ask them to add some protective software on it. Do the same w/your phone & tablet.
Finally, allow yourself to mourn the loss of this girl. Acknowledge, honor and express your feelings as they come up, even if you don't understand them.
In addition, write each of them a "good bye" letter. In each letter, express everything you want to tell them. For example: how they hurt you, what you will and won't miss about them, etc. and then say good bye in any way that feels right to you.
THEN, and this is IMPORTANT: Absolutely DO NOT send them the letters! Instead, burn them. Or rip them into little pieces and bury them in the earth. Create a funeral-like ceremony around the 'release' of each letter. This is very cathartic.
You may have to write more than one letter and that's ok. It's important to keep reminding yourself that 1. the grief process is not linear and stages can repeat and happen in any order; 2. it takes time to grieve; and 3. we each have our own time frame.
Finally, take very good care of yourself. Be gentle and kind to yourself.
~healing hugs~