Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
this morning I woke up and just got out of the shower and was getting ready and he says "my backpack is still out in the woods, damn so n so didn't get it, he left it out there"
I roll my eyes, and said, "never leave it up to the other person to do your work for you, always go back and double check your site for any left behind items. That way when you leave your items its no one else's fault but your own."
he was quite. I think he got the point I was making. It's not so n so's fault HIS back pack got left out there, It was HIS fault it got left out there.
Nothing more was said about the back pack after that.
It gets on my nerves when he blames others for his actions. This is my pet peeve for today.
If it's his backpack why would it be so n so's fault it got left. ugh! just vent today :)
I roll my eyes, and said, "never leave it up to the other person to do your work for you, always go back and double check your site for any left behind items. That way when you leave your items its no one else's fault but your own."
he was quite. I think he got the point I was making. It's not so n so's fault HIS back pack got left out there, It was HIS fault it got left out there.
Nothing more was said about the back pack after that.
It gets on my nerves when he blames others for his actions. This is my pet peeve for today.
If it's his backpack why would it be so n so's fault it got left. ugh! just vent today :)
Mine would never take responsibility for ANYTHING!!! Drove me flippin nuts!
He did recently tell me that the reason he lost his last 2 jobs was because we wasn't working.
All this time he blamed it on everything else but himself. His favorite - "those bosses were women...they hated me and felt inferior to me. Women make terrible bosses! will never have another female boss again"
Maybe I should add misogyny to the list
Blah blah blipity blah...what an assclown
GRRR
They are my angels :)
I hope I don't get punised, but it feels good when I tell him things like this.
I remember when I would get punished by my exh for doing saying things like that, and not only me but my children also. It was a nightmare.
you know kitty, I hope that things turn for a positive, and I know there will come a time when his monster will surface. I am prepared, I continue not to trust him.
sometimes I ask myself why I am back with him, but yet right now I am happy.
I was so lonely whe he was gone, and at times when we go through our rough times, I think to myself what am I doing?
When he says I am getting angry, I usually tell him its time for a break, and I leave the room or I go somewhere else like to my aunts or I go sit with my daughter in the living room until he comes out where we are and he hugs me. I know if its a genuine hug asking for forgiveness or a hug to just get me back to the room for punishment. I stay with my daughter if there is any danger. If he can't calm down, I tell him to go to his mom's for the night. until he calms down. He usually agrees. He is so chicken of the cops. He calls them names. But he doesn't want any charges on him so he usually listens to my suggestions.
His mom is a great advocate for him, she opens the door wide open when he goes home. and she doesn't like me. So she defenitely believes hime when he says I am the abuser. haha!
yep they are defenitely crazy!Thanks kitty :)
i remember I once worked with a man who believed woman was inferior and when I begin doing the exact same job he was doing I done it in half the time, and I gloated big time, the three other woman joined our crew and we kicked the men's ass' It was such a triumphant time for us as woman to show a man's world what we could do.
on of the few victories I got to witness in front of men who believe its a man's world :)