Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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gettingitstraight 09/01/2012

So I am not the typical type to reflect on my past I try to keep it there even though all my actions are based on my past I tend to overthink all situations now. But lately it seems part of my brain is living my past nightmare again and I have been down about it my abuse happened over time but its been 20 years. Why am j relieving some ofnit so vividly. There are no new things that I am rmebering just what happened. I have not thought of some of this in years and for good reason.. so my question does the thinking about it ever stop. Everything in my life is getting better in some places. So its not anything triggering it. But there it is again fresh in my kind

layersuponlayers 09/02/2012

I dont have the answers. I just know that life can be difficult and sometimes things remind us of the pain we have gone through. I think being a parent is the greatest role possible in life for many of us, and I get the sense you love your kids. I think without brain damage you are going to remember bad stuff. Hang in there. Your kids need you. hugs Karen

IleneW 09/02/2012

Hon -----

Often it's when we finally feel safe
that our mind allows the awful stuff
to begin resurfacing.

It might help to write down what
you're remembering. I know this
might sound like something you
SHOULDN'T do.

But what the documenting of it does
is to get it OUT of inside of you and
allow you to EMPTY yourself of the
memories. It's not that they go away.
But often, by expelling the memories
onto digital file or paper, they've
traveled their path through, out
and AWAY from you, and you
have a chance to be FREE
of them.

Don't be upset that they're
coming up, now. But do
do something with them.
Set them down, and then
you have a chance to box
them up and truly put them
away, or even do ceremonial
funerals with them.

Hugs and healing thoughts.

hockeymom5592 09/02/2012

There are layers of healing, like the old metaphor about the onion. You get through one, you are ok, you think you are healed, and then, it bubbles up from a deeper place.

And you let it bubble up, and allow yourself to be sad or angry or whatever, and it too will dissipate. There's always a deeper level of understanding and healing that we can achieve, and our core, our center, wants it to be healed all the way through. So,when you are ready, there you are.

It won't last, just let it be, let it heal, let it go. Big hugs to you...

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