Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Hi, it's been a year since I broke up with my ex-emotional abuser boyfriend. He dumped me after I broke up with him. It all started with an expensive European cruise he decided to go on with friends from his work. He developed a crush on one of the women on the cruise, but unfortunately for him, she already had a boyfriend that she was faithful to.
Before the cruise, he started picking out all kinds of little itty bitty flaws about me, and just exploding into rages over them. When he returned from the cruise, he didn't act like he was interested in me anymore. He said that he wanted to go to a wine bar to explore (by himself).
He told me that I needed to dress sexier and more competetive with other women. He told me that I had no healthy relationships in my life. I feel that if he really loved me, it would have been a more unconditional love. I keep feeling like I failed. Like I was jumping through hoops for him, and still failing. He also said that we would rent a house together, but when he got back from his cruise, told me to get my own apartment alone (said I could only spend three nights a week with him).
I wanted to win his love, and I feel that I was unable to! The good memories hurt. The bad memories hurt. I just wish that I never had a relationship with him!
It's been a year, and absolutely no contact since a year ago. It has helped me so much to have the support of DS. Any thoughts will be appreciated.
Before the cruise, he started picking out all kinds of little itty bitty flaws about me, and just exploding into rages over them. When he returned from the cruise, he didn't act like he was interested in me anymore. He said that he wanted to go to a wine bar to explore (by himself).
He told me that I needed to dress sexier and more competetive with other women. He told me that I had no healthy relationships in my life. I feel that if he really loved me, it would have been a more unconditional love. I keep feeling like I failed. Like I was jumping through hoops for him, and still failing. He also said that we would rent a house together, but when he got back from his cruise, told me to get my own apartment alone (said I could only spend three nights a week with him).
I wanted to win his love, and I feel that I was unable to! The good memories hurt. The bad memories hurt. I just wish that I never had a relationship with him!
It's been a year, and absolutely no contact since a year ago. It has helped me so much to have the support of DS. Any thoughts will be appreciated.
Sorry that you had to go through this. How do you feel about it? Do you miss it or are you feeling healthier because you decided to end this?
Personally, I think you deserve better. Love and light to you honey.
And I promise, it does get better with time. Hang in there, the fog will lift soon.
Big hugs.
Hugs to you hon for getting over him...