Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
After a year long relationship my SO told me to get all of my shit out of
his apartment, that he basically didn't want anything to do with me anymore, that he didn't think we should talk, see each other, etc.
This after a year of promises that we would be together, he went on
an exotic vacation for work and I am sure that he developed some kind
of crush on another woman.
I have had no contact for months, I have felt what borders on depression, I have too much pride to ask him why he did this, he is out of my life, and I plan for him to stay out of my life forever. do you think that what he did was wrong, a form of abuse???
his apartment, that he basically didn't want anything to do with me anymore, that he didn't think we should talk, see each other, etc.
This after a year of promises that we would be together, he went on
an exotic vacation for work and I am sure that he developed some kind
of crush on another woman.
I have had no contact for months, I have felt what borders on depression, I have too much pride to ask him why he did this, he is out of my life, and I plan for him to stay out of my life forever. do you think that what he did was wrong, a form of abuse???
Clearly however it was painful and hurtful to you. I am sorry about that and wish you the best getting over the pain of a break up.
It's hard to know for sure what may have happened without more information, but chance are, you're better off without a this cold type of character in your life.
Let's say this:
Whether you call it abuse or just poor interpersonal etiquette or just what can happen in relationships, sounds like you're WELL OUT.
Someone who promises one thing for a year and after an exotic vacation dumps you that abruptly is not a man with the wherewithall to be a wonderful lifetime partner.
Do the work it takes to get over a relationship, and move on knowing that you might actaully have ESCAPED a whole bunch more, maybe decades of heartache.
Find some good "moving on" books, read them, do the work and don't look back.
Best of luck to you.
The way he did it, just tells me that he does have an abusive personality, if you ask me. You should be glad you are out of that relationship. There must have been other signs when you were with him, that he wasn't a really nice person, and probably not trustworthy.
I know you will probably meet someone else that will treat you better than that, because you deserve it.
Good luck.