Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Hi Again!
I have a question. If anyone has any insight it would be much appreciated.
So as suspected any chance at an amicable of ending my marriage is out the window dispite my husband being a CPA and telling me he wants to be financially smart if we "really go down this road".
I have taken the advice of trying to just tell him that I refuse to talk about anything other then logistics and of course this has caused him to accuse me of leaving him in "limbo" (Ummm, excuse me, but I have told you all along that I want out of the marriage, you have told me you don't want that so how is it that I am leaving you in "limbo". He has also now told me "There is no way he will allow our kids to think this is his choice and that he full on intends to make sure they know he did not want this".
And then comes the comment that generates my question....... He told me this morning at 4:20am when he woke up with "anxiety over the situation". He said "You know that if one party does not agree with the divorce the judge can force the married couple to go through at least 3 months of counseling".
So my question is....... Can a judge demand I go to counseling with him? I am seeing a therapist (that he despises) and she has identified manipultation, control, emotional abuse on his part as well as identified him (based on the things I told her) that he likely has a personality disorder, is narcisitic and sociopathic.
If this has been identified can a judge still force me to go to counseling?
It is now clear that he is going to want to spend money that we don't have to try to keep something together that I have clearly told him I don't want.
Any advice? Thank you in advance!
I have a question. If anyone has any insight it would be much appreciated.
So as suspected any chance at an amicable of ending my marriage is out the window dispite my husband being a CPA and telling me he wants to be financially smart if we "really go down this road".
I have taken the advice of trying to just tell him that I refuse to talk about anything other then logistics and of course this has caused him to accuse me of leaving him in "limbo" (Ummm, excuse me, but I have told you all along that I want out of the marriage, you have told me you don't want that so how is it that I am leaving you in "limbo". He has also now told me "There is no way he will allow our kids to think this is his choice and that he full on intends to make sure they know he did not want this".
And then comes the comment that generates my question....... He told me this morning at 4:20am when he woke up with "anxiety over the situation". He said "You know that if one party does not agree with the divorce the judge can force the married couple to go through at least 3 months of counseling".
So my question is....... Can a judge demand I go to counseling with him? I am seeing a therapist (that he despises) and she has identified manipultation, control, emotional abuse on his part as well as identified him (based on the things I told her) that he likely has a personality disorder, is narcisitic and sociopathic.
If this has been identified can a judge still force me to go to counseling?
It is now clear that he is going to want to spend money that we don't have to try to keep something together that I have clearly told him I don't want.
Any advice? Thank you in advance!
In some states, your spouse can ask for counseling and a chance for reconciliation when she answers your divorce papers. A judge may or may not grant her this request. If he does, it will slow down your divorce process while you attend counseling. It wont stop you from getting your divorce, however, if you tell the court after counseling that you still believe the marriage isn't savable.
What stands out to me about his comment is that he has CLEARLY gotten legal advice ... maybe from a friend but maybe from a lawyer.
Don't let him take control of this. Don't let him take control of your kids.
And be prepared for him to use the kids as weapons - he has already said he intends to do so. Document these threats and anything else he says about how he plans to use the kids against you. Don't tell him how wrong you think that is, or he may stop telling you (he'll still do it tho).