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Anxiety because he's supposed to come get stuff

radrm
radrm
He is supposed to be here at 1 to get his stuff from my house. I have anxiety because of the fact that I do not know what to expect. Is he going to try and take things he shouldn't? Is he going to mumble under his breath or drag it out. Is he bringing his pot head son who I don't trust? He said he needed to bring someone to help. Will it be someone I don't know? Well my son and I decided that if he isn't here by 2 my son will tell him I'm not home. He has a habit of being late and making me wait on him even when we were together. So I am trying to not have a lot of anxiety. This is why I wish it only would take one trip and he gets all of his stuff so I dont have to go through this over and over like all the other times. Luckily there isn't that much left but if he wants to get picky I dont know. He may want to take things I think should stay because they were bought for this house to use like the hedge trimmers. But if he asks for it I'll just say take it so he cant complain. The ladder is an issue too, lol. Seems so petty hu but I dont have money to buy all this stuff and I don't like to borrow things. If he takes it I will just have to go buy one. I just want to remain calm and hope he hurries up and gets it all and goes. Wish me luck! Anxious!!! blah!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Here is what I did: the day he was supposed to come, I put it all outside on the back patio so he would not have an excuse to enter the house. Then he didn't even show up. So I covered his stuff with a tarp, so I wouldn't be accused of ruining his things, and now, several months later, he STILL hasn't set up another date to pick up his stuff. My lawyer is going to give him a deadline, and if he doesn't show by then, I can trash it all or sell it.

Putting it all out is good because then he cannot enter the house, and he cannot manipulate you with little tricks like being late or mumbling or bringing people you don't like. I also suggest getting a good friend or family member to be there to witness. You could also ask the police.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi,

Pandora gave you some great advice so I don't have much to add except stay strong, don't stoop to his level or let him drag you into a fight that you don't want to have. And do something extra-nice for yourself after it's over and he has gone.

You can do this. Good luck.
radrm
radrm
I did it and the rest is outside in the driveway so I don't have to see him or deal with him for anything else. He said he will get the car and engine later on. Hopefully they will be gone by tonight. Even if he doesnt I dont have to be bothered so thats the good thing.