Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Pasted in from today's "Wolf's Daily Howl"
This weekend there was another domestic
murder/suicide here in our small state of Connecticut.
When I heard the story on the news this weekend, my blood ran cold.
While an abuse murder is horrific
no matter where or when, the fact is
that I know so many survivors in Southington,
whove been participants in our HEAL circle,
that I was terrified to find out the identity of
the woman killed. With relief, I learned that
the victim was no one I know personally. With
profound sadness, the woman killed was
another life lost to abuse. The perpetrator
first killed his partner, then himself, leaving
two children, orphaned.
Dr. Phil McGraw just re-aired an episode on
Ending the Silence of Domestic Violence.
According to his statistics, which I believe he
got through the National Network to End Domestic
Violence, close to 11,000 women are killed by
intimate partners or ex-partners, every year and
more than two million women are injured annually.
Often, when talking with clients or posting on this
or other forums, I feel tentative and even guilty,
when speaking of potential violence. I dont
want to sound like an alarmist. One woman
who was averse to talking or hearing about
anything negative, asked me to never speak
of these possibilities again, lest by thinking and
speaking of them, wed then elicit them to manifest.
But when stories of violence and tragedy appear
in the media, I regret that I dont speak of potential
violence even more often than I do.
Im embarrassed at my relief that the victim of this
act of murder, wasnt someone I know and love.
But I take comfort, at least, in that I do what I can do,
to alert potential victims, to the possibility.
Please, all. . . . . . please take care and stay safe.
This weekend there was another domestic
murder/suicide here in our small state of Connecticut.
When I heard the story on the news this weekend, my blood ran cold.
While an abuse murder is horrific
no matter where or when, the fact is
that I know so many survivors in Southington,
whove been participants in our HEAL circle,
that I was terrified to find out the identity of
the woman killed. With relief, I learned that
the victim was no one I know personally. With
profound sadness, the woman killed was
another life lost to abuse. The perpetrator
first killed his partner, then himself, leaving
two children, orphaned.
Dr. Phil McGraw just re-aired an episode on
Ending the Silence of Domestic Violence.
According to his statistics, which I believe he
got through the National Network to End Domestic
Violence, close to 11,000 women are killed by
intimate partners or ex-partners, every year and
more than two million women are injured annually.
Often, when talking with clients or posting on this
or other forums, I feel tentative and even guilty,
when speaking of potential violence. I dont
want to sound like an alarmist. One woman
who was averse to talking or hearing about
anything negative, asked me to never speak
of these possibilities again, lest by thinking and
speaking of them, wed then elicit them to manifest.
But when stories of violence and tragedy appear
in the media, I regret that I dont speak of potential
violence even more often than I do.
Im embarrassed at my relief that the victim of this
act of murder, wasnt someone I know and love.
But I take comfort, at least, in that I do what I can do,
to alert potential victims, to the possibility.
Please, all. . . . . . please take care and stay safe.
You should never doubt the the importance and the impact of your words. Everything you write has heart and truth in it. Sadly, the truth regarding abuse is scary and painful.
I remember when I had my "oh my God" moment in my relationship, where I finally allowed myself to realize things really could escalate into something horrible. This was my life, not a movie or a book ( I was in some heavy denial). I'm so thankful I made it out safely and I wish the same for everyone who is posting or reading on this forum. Please remember you are beautiful, unique and irreplaceable.
Thanks Ilene for making a difference in my life.
But yes, you keep doing what you are doing and I'm glad that what you do brings you a little comfort. You cannot measure the lives you have saved, and I'm guessing the number is up there.
You're a blessing to all of us, as is this community.