Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
My boyfriend accidentally ran over a small curb in the parkinglot leaving the movie theaters. It spooked me because it was late at night, dark, and we had just seen a scary movie. My instant reaction was "What the f***!" and he instantly thought I meant it angrily towards him, and not because I got scared for a second. I had NO idea what had happened, I thought maybe we got a flat tire... I didn't know. (Plus it was dark and late and we just saw a scary movie, I was Jumpy!) A brief raised-voice exchange took place, then...
He went psycho and drove us all over the parkinglot, in which I saw a guard rail speeding towards us and then the parkinglot behind us within a blink of my eyes. (It's very fortunate that it was a big, empty lot) Burning rubber is all I smelled.
He finally stopped, I got out of the car and started walking away. He screamed out the window "GET BACK IN THE CAR" I resisted for a couple minutes but then realized I had no ther way home, and people driving by us were definitely staring.
When I got in, he said, "Do NOT scream in my car again, or I'll give you something to really scream about"
We got home and I had been crying the whole way home (in which he drove like a normal human being). He apologized and said he truly felt bad. I still fell asleep crying though. He works all day today but I don't work weekends, so now I have all day to think about this. I don't know what to do.
but of more use to you would
be a way to sort this out.
Here's one way:
Try doing Ilene's Clarifying
Index Card exercise. I'll
bump that thread for you
as soon
It will help you see if
this traumatic and
dangerous incident
was a "one off" or if
you're living in an
abusive relationship
that's typified by a
regular pattern of
dysfunctional behavior.
If you choose to do the
exercise (and I hope you
will), keep the work you
do private and away
from anywhere he
can find it.
Sending hugs
and wishes for
clarity and healing.