allo, i am definitely not as bad off as many here... but here goes, i am mainly here, because i am trying to help 2 ppl (one online, the other IRL) get out of abusive relationships, and it is an uphill battle the whole way. They want to leave, but are so scared, as well as their heads are so wrapped up around the abuser that it is astounding... and i understand it... a bit, because my father was an emotional abuser, but after a few years, when i recognized a duck as being a duck, i got out... and havve not looked back. And while i have not spoken to my father in 8 years... i miss him, but i do not regret that decision... especially since the primary person that was abused was my mother... and he was using me to hurt her after their divorce... and when i knew that... well, not only was my shame at being a tool to hurt my mother... but the shame that i was not seen as a person to my Dad... so yeah, i mot not have had it worse, but it ain't been no picnic either. And at one point... i almost became an abuser... during my alcohol days(i am an alcoholic) but i was abble to see what i was doing, so i gave up on relationships for a while(the booze was too important... i wouldn't get in a relatiionship... but i couldn't give up the alcohol yet either) And well, i am sober for a year and a half now, and well... that is my story pretty much... and now, as for the reason i am here... as stated earlier, helping 2 ppl out... as well as one of my best friends was in an abusive relationship, and i am looking to get some support and how to properly help ppl that do want help...
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