Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I'm carrying a lot of pain from my fathers abandonment and my mothers neglect. But my father grew up poor in the Dominican Republic and my mother grew up deaf and abandoned by her family in a convent in Puerto Rico. And it hurt to see how my mothers extended family treated each other's kids and to see how they left out me and my sister.
I'm not sure if it was because how my mom is, because my fathers black, or because we had no money, probably all 3. My older sister was emotionally unavailable to just me, I think she's jealous because I have lighter skin but I can't blame her the way people treat people with dark skin even those with dark skin themselves.
I'm a total freak now don't talk to anyone, don't leave the house, only talk to people through text, get panic attacks just thinking about doing an errand or going somewhere with people. Is it ok to be angry at people who can't help themselves or are just being human?
I'm not sure if it was because how my mom is, because my fathers black, or because we had no money, probably all 3. My older sister was emotionally unavailable to just me, I think she's jealous because I have lighter skin but I can't blame her the way people treat people with dark skin even those with dark skin themselves.
I'm a total freak now don't talk to anyone, don't leave the house, only talk to people through text, get panic attacks just thinking about doing an errand or going somewhere with people. Is it ok to be angry at people who can't help themselves or are just being human?
Sure, sometimes a misunderstanding gets cleared up and that changes how you feel, but the feelings before -when you misunderstood- are still valid as to how you felt at that time.
Changing how you react to what you feel is where therapy and emotional growth fit in. Just as there are no stupid questions to those who wish to truly teach, there are no wrong emotions to those who who wish to truly help.