hi everyone, happy new year!
i want to thank you all, again, for your bravery and compassion here on this site. this is truly a place to turn pain into healing because of the sharing that happens here every day. i am proud to be a small part of it, and proud of us all.

anyway....thanks to many of your submissions i have written a second gaslighting post for my website and i wanted to share it with you. thank you all so much for helping me articulate so many things that controlled me in the past because i couldn't name them. i hope that by speaking these abusive tactics out loud we can diffuse them, or at least beat them into submission.

i hope you enjoy the post and here's a link to the site for anyone interested in checking it out:

www.comic-sense.com


What? What did I do?
Why are you always so sensitive? I was just joking! Cant you enjoy my anecdotes like your family, friends, co-workers, neighbors and fellow bus patrons? They see its just innocent ribbing, why do you have to ruin the joke by crying? Wheres your sense of humor?

You always overreact to everything I say. I have to lie to you just to keep you from freaking out over every little thing. Im protecting you, see how much I care? You have to start trusting me, THEN Ill stop lying.

You make it hard to be patient with you. Im not saying youre stupid, but you should know by now that when you react to my anger it makes me mad. Also, when you dont react to my anger, it makes me mad. Also, trying to open the plastic casing around batteries makes me mad. Also, rainy days and Mondays always get me down, and that makes me mad. If I have to yell its because you brought it on yourself. Even an idiot would know that. A stupid idiot. A fat stupid idiot.

I dont know why youre so insecure. The whole time I cheated I was careful to hide it, out of respect. Im not cheating now, wheres your gratitude? Anyway, I married you, didnt I? Isnt that proof of my love for you, or at least wedding cake? You are really ugly when you're being needy. Our wedding cake must have been DELICIOUS! Ha! What? Im kidding!

I didnt say that thing I just said three seconds ago, I didnt do that thing you have video of me doing. Obviously your memory is the product of a decade-long PCP addiction or brain malady, so I have no choice but to dismiss it immediately. I dont know why you have to go looking for the negative in everything. You make trouble for yourself and then complain about the consequences, its your own fault!


Its all in your head. Your imaginary fabrications dont mean anything to me, thats why I ignore what you say. Ill listen when you say something worth listening to. Ill leave you alone to cool off and get over whatever it is you think you feel. A few weeks of silence should remind you how much you need me and what happens when youre oversensitive.

You are so lucky to have me, no one else would put up with this crap.