Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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jojo42 09/23/2009

After being thru the abuse cycle for 23 years (sigh...I hate to remind myself of that fact)I am so used the ups and downs that go with abuse. It was very normal for me to have 2 great weeks of great marriage to have him melt down and make the next 3-4 weeks a living hell. I know you all know what I am talking about. So now I am out, loving the heck out of life, excited about the future BUT....is it normal for a while anyway to be constantly on edge thinking thoughts like "this will fall apart at any minute." "This won't last much longer", "When is the hammer gonna fall?" etc etc etc. Is that a mind case of post tramatic stress disorder or normal or....? I mean I obviously do not let it control my life but I have these fears deep down in my heart and my mind. Hoping this goes away soon. It has only been 7 months....
Anyone?

layersuponlayers 09/23/2009

completely normal. I think those feelings last for years. At least they did for me. We walk away from these situations with scars. With support we get better but I dont think they ever go totally away, which makes sense really. It isn't like we totaly forget them.

calmzone 09/23/2009

Yes, and you're right, part of PTSD...after 23 yrs in that cycle, especially.
Best to look into some therapy to help you with this, this is tough to get through alone...or just by positive thinking, etc. I tried the mind over matter thing, and my symptoms grew. You deserve good care after being through so much.

deleted_user 09/23/2009

Unfortunately yes, although they do get less and catch you out less. I have a wonderful girlfriend who is so amazing, it makes me realise that everything i had before was rubbish, but I still get caught out by the silliest things. It does dwindle away eventually though. **HUGS**

MyTrueColors 09/23/2009

Yep, I've been divorced coming up on 3 yrs in Jan and I'm not ready for a relationship because I'm still afraid of the other shoe dropping.

deleted_user 09/23/2009

Jojo you will get past this in time. Keep on enjoying life girlfriend.

deleted_user 09/23/2009

I lived all my life with abuse..not sure what to expect but I am going to tell you one thing this is the last man who is going to abuse me...I AM DONE!!!!!!!!! I am getting my life together and growing stronger all the time. JoJo I pray it'll past for you..I think in time all will get better for you...and all of us on this board..
Hugs and keep your chin-up

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