Sounds like he has potential to be abusive. Although you dont clarify what the past mistake is that you made, and that he has forgiven you...sounds like you two may need counseling. Maybe he is struggling on how to move forward. I am concerned about his anger. If he doesn't want to go to counseling with you to work this out, you should. If you feel you are in danger, you might consider reaching out to a women's abuse shelter or stay with family. When they start cornering you or putting their hands on you, I'd be concerned. My experience is w/ my ex is that if they get comfortable w/ that it could eventually escalate into them being comfortable doing more. You and the baby need to be safe. If you are scared of him, reach out for help. God bless

Also forgot to mention , that there isn't anything unusual for a husband to want to celebrate your birthday w/ you. Is it because he feels overlooked? Maybe he wanted to do something with/for you? Communication is important in a marriage. I know I didn't always know how to discuss things at times. Hope things work out.

Everything you have shared
with us here in the relatively
brief post is a totally clear
description of someone who
is abusive right now and who
has a very high potential of
causing you and possibly
your baby serious injury
or worse.

(Sorry, but this is not
about having issues
with "communication."
This is about staying
alive.)

To put this in other terms. . . . .

the very best thing you
can do for yourself and
your helpless baby is to
immediately visit your
nearest women's center
and tell them what you've
told us here.

For instance, that he
has become "insanely
jealous and paranoid"
after the birth of your
baby.

This is one indicator
of extreme danger
to both you AND
your baby.

Another is that he has
already been violent.

Pushing you is an assault.
Cornering you is an assault.
Throwing things is called
"symbolic violence," the
operative term here being
violence.

You and your baby
are IN DANGER.
DON'T DELAY!!!!!!
Go the the women's
center nearest you
and have them help
you. (If you don't
know where it is,
P.M. me with where
you live and I'll see
if I can get that info
for you.)

Last of all, the main
issue here is not "anger."
The main issue is that
he is VIOLENTLY ABUSIVE.

This is not a
relationship issue.

This is about
him being
emotionally damaged,
requiring total CONTROL.
An abuser is not able to
be an intimate partner.

Please don't delay!!!!!!!

Please get out of this abusive and dangerous relationship now. I know it's never easy to walk out but you must no question of that. It will be so much more difficult if you decide to stay. This man will destroy your life and he will crush your self esteem. In time your confidence will be so crushed you will not even have the ability to walk away. This violent man will destroy your baby's life. Your baby will suffer from depression as a child and an adult. Your baby will have mental health problems and may end up inabusive relationships in the future. The sooner you leave the better. Good luck. Ps I stayed with an angry and abusive man for 4 years. My daughter was 2 when I moved in with him and 6 when I left. Now 25 years later she is abusive towards me, she is Narcissistic and this is learned behaviour from an early age. She has cut me out of her life and I know longer see my grandchildren I adore. I wS a good mum but the damage has been done in her childhood. I so regret not leaving him after his first jealous rage but I had nowhere to go. On hindsight sleeping on a park bench would have been the better option. So many lives have been ruined because I did not walk out on this man for my own stupid reasons and because I believed him when he begged me to give him another chance, " to prove he could make me happy." They never change. Please take your baby and leave this man - perminantly. Good luck, there's a lot of help available to you today, please take it.

I agree with the women above. I grew up watching my Dad abuse every woman he was ever with, including abusing me. I am not an abusive person but I do struggle with sometimes crippling anxiety and other issues. This doesn't just affect you, this affects your child. Writing everything down with dates and details of what happened is helpful in setting up a timeline of abuse if custody becomes an issue. If you don't leave, and he does this again CALL THE POLICE IMMEDIATELY. You need to have record of these instances and proof of these instances to protect yourself and your baby. Here for you if you need anything.

Hunny you are still young.. take a baby and get divorce .. its called emotional and physical abuse
its not healthy for the baby or you, and its not safe for you to be around this kind of person. This is technically can be a CPS case.. cause if he does something to your baby if you are not home and you knowing that his has all this anger issues ... your baby can be taken away from you for safety and who knows what cps will decide from their. Just being honest.

Sounds like how my husband treated me when he was in the depths of his addiction (I didn't know at the time that he was an addict). Leave now.

So things have went from bad to worse when I was coerced into a car when we were drinking.. Ended up being arrested and going to lose my license. He is leading me down a destructive path, he says I need him more than ever now when I cant drive.

Don't know the first thing to do about leaving as I have told him to leave but he refuses to.

I'm going to cut and
paste in here what
I wrote before:


You and your baby
are IN DANGER.
DON'T DELAY!!!!!!
Go the the women's
center nearest you
and have them help
you. (If you don't
know where it is,
P.M. me with where
you live and I'll see
if I can get that info
for you.)

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If you can't get there
now because of
transportation issues,
either call a taxi to get
there or talk to them
on the phone.

That's the first thing to do.

P.S. He's not going to leave.
You're going to have to take
the steps you need to get
to an abuse-free life.