As a kid, I was abused
at home and at school.

Then I married men who
were dysfunctional in
various ways, the second
being primariy (but not
exclusively), emotionally
abusive.

It too me most of a lifetime
to pull myself together. I
still have rough edges
from what happened
in the earliest years.

But lots of work moved
me most of the way to
feeling GREAT.

Healing can happen.
I hope it does for you.

yup. me too. sexually and physically, and emotionally abused as a child..witnessed my mom being abused..

and 3 of my most serious relationships were abusive..

I'm staying single for a while, and will be very wary after this. hopefully I'll have healed enough to not end up in this situation again.

I've experienced abuse most of my life, bullying being a part of it. After going to counseling I have found skills to help me see why I choose the way I do and how to overcome my broken antennae. My life is much better now because of counseling. You can heal. It is possible to live life instead of survive life.

i have been feeling all the emotions come back for the last couple weeks i know why but one thing brought everything back i thought i was past, i was physically abused by someone in school alot, and i got into a conversation on facebook, with a classmate about how ths individual used to do the stuff he did to me, turns out he did thins to this girl also, funny thing next day, she gets an email from the guy saying he read what she said and he apologized for everything he did to her, i got nothing, made me thing, i am not the same person i was i turned what happened to me around and let it make me stronger, i bettered myself and i am still being treated this way, i don know if this is for this support group or bullying, but for the last 2 weeks since that happened i have been depressed

A lot of abuse in my life as well. Even my therapist who hears these things on a daily basis seemed impressed at the amount of dysfuntional individuals in my life and abusers.

The way I see it, when it's all we've known, we keep getting the same thing because we don't know any better. The key is working therapy and counseling, learning about healthy relationships and boundaries, and gathering up the self-esteem and strength to break the bonds of abusive relationships before they even begin. We have to train ourselves to heal and to seek healthy relationships and behaviours.

It takes a lot of work. I began my journey in 2002 and I have a LOT more to go, but I'm a LOT better than I was. My long-time counselor marvels at the change I have gone through. People are CONSTANTLY telling me that I look so much better. I used to have permanent black eyes from anxiety, lack of sleep, and health problems. That has faded a lot, and people can just see a different expression on my face now. It feels great! We can all heal. It's SO worth it.

Yes, I still have to take a few meds for mental issues.. mainly anxiety and not sleeping, but I take less than I used to, and I feel it's a realistic hope that I can take even less in the future. It takes a lot of time for mental healing, but it is possible.

Oh, and you probably didn't get an email cuz you are not a hot girl. He just wants to get into her pants probably. Typical., No reflection on you whatsoever!

You were triggered, but there are ways to cope with triggers. Mostly I hear therapist say put yourself in the present because I disassociate a lot, but what helps me most is positive thinking... even when I don't believe it, I won't allow myself to wallow in the past and negatives. Ruminating does not help anything. It's ok at first to sort out your feelings, but after a point it just becomes obsessive and leads to more anxiety and triggers.

I just want to thank everyone I guess it just triggered me into a bad place I just have to crawl out of it.

Ilene thanks that is inspiring

Rachel thanks and sorry us guys are idiots lol

Dual thanks I know I can I have done that just seemed to real me back in.

Pandora thanks you said a lot of good things to think about too I can relate to all I have known statement. I thought I did breakaway from that life and I didn't plan on looking back