Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Just wanted to say, that if you
don't see me responding to
every thread, it's because I'm
a little bit tired. I see all the
wise and wonderful responses
and feel like the thread's already
been covered.
I'm okay. I'm busy with good
things, but find I have limited
energy, afterward.
One of the things I'm doing,
is teaching a class. One of
the women in the class, long
ago, ended a 27 year abusive
marriage. At first, she swore
up, down and sideways, that
she'd processed the pain and
has moved on.
Slowly, it came out, that she sees
him at family gatherings (Thanksgiving
coming up), where he will be horrible
to everybody with his standard bullying.
He will go on making everybody feel
threatened, frightened and injured.
So ---- there you go.
The woman did wonderful work to
get free and get out. But that's as
far as it went. The bully is still
included in the family, is still allowed
to abuse everyone who attends, and
is still spewing toxicity, without anyone
being able to stand up, hand him his
coat and see him out the door
Recovery is a lifelong endeavor.
Take a breath, (as I'm in the process
of doing), and then continue on with
wherever you are on your journey.
Anyway, I'm still hear and I'm still
participating. I may not respond
to every thread, but I care and I
love you all.
don't see me responding to
every thread, it's because I'm
a little bit tired. I see all the
wise and wonderful responses
and feel like the thread's already
been covered.
I'm okay. I'm busy with good
things, but find I have limited
energy, afterward.
One of the things I'm doing,
is teaching a class. One of
the women in the class, long
ago, ended a 27 year abusive
marriage. At first, she swore
up, down and sideways, that
she'd processed the pain and
has moved on.
Slowly, it came out, that she sees
him at family gatherings (Thanksgiving
coming up), where he will be horrible
to everybody with his standard bullying.
He will go on making everybody feel
threatened, frightened and injured.
So ---- there you go.
The woman did wonderful work to
get free and get out. But that's as
far as it went. The bully is still
included in the family, is still allowed
to abuse everyone who attends, and
is still spewing toxicity, without anyone
being able to stand up, hand him his
coat and see him out the door
Recovery is a lifelong endeavor.
Take a breath, (as I'm in the process
of doing), and then continue on with
wherever you are on your journey.
Anyway, I'm still hear and I'm still
participating. I may not respond
to every thread, but I care and I
love you all.
I love all the beautiful images
of smiling faces, that have
begun to appear as icons
more regularly.
I'm considering putting
one up, of myself.
We know you care. You are sooooo valued here.
I am dreading the Holidays because of my parents.
I would like to go away and forget that there even is a holiday, but then my daughter would suffer.
Thank you for all your support.
YOU have been through a 'situation' lately and you need to think of your own recovery from it and need to focus on you too!!
Hugs Ilene, you are a great woman :)
point being you do not always have to be the strong one......we are here for you.......and we understand completely.
Relax......take care of yourself......do something nice for you.....have some fun......whatever you like.....ice cream? Chocolate? massage?
So yeah, take a breath, do whatever you need to. You have made yourself so accessible to everyone, those who really need you can find you, without too much problem.
Put a pic up!!! You're a beautiful lady!
Big hugs, girl. Love you.
(Yes, c.j. ---- my INNER child.)
This is a holiday week
coming up. I'm going to
try and do some rest
and relaxation.
Love you all, back.
We certainly do not want you to feel guilty that there isn't enough time and energy in a day that we all would like!