I would like to see the comparrison of a healty relationship versus an abusive relationship.

Also, I think that it would be a good thing to bring out abuse among teenagers. I think everyone should be educated on abuse.

Also how to set healthy boundaries.

Excellent! Thanks, Tame.

Others? YOUR thoughts?

How abuse as a child leads to abuse as adults (either victim or victimizer). And how abuse affects self esteem. And why it is so hard to leave an abusive relationship.

If I could add one more Ilene.

I would like to see one on Parenting your child without abuse/abusive signals/abuse speak.

Thank you.

Like Tame, I'd also like to see something on building healthy boundaries.

I'd also like to see something on how we can learn to validate ourselves, as I think this is something many abuse victims battle with.

some stories of the survivors would be great

I am a proud supporter of the anti twilight movement, and I think it is a very interesting and relevant topic to domestic abuse. the movie and book series idealizes the abusive relationship and romanticizes it - and whats worste is its actually is such a big phenomenon.

theres a website : http://theantitwilightmovement.webs.com/about.htm
that talks more about it.

Thank you ALL (and I hope there will be more), for your input.

I just visited the above site, and in fact ----- there was a reference
to the abusive nature of the relationship in Twilight just this morning
in a feature on one of the network early shows. Wow. That's really
interesting stuff. Of course I've been aware of the popularity of the
Twilight book(s?) and movies, but I haven't read or seen any of them.

Even before I visited the site, I knew that what you observed
had a high probability of being the case. Thank you for raising
my awareness on this topic.

Again, thanks to all who've responded. If you haven't yet,
please let me know the question or topic that you'd personally
love to see spotlit on a video. Initially my show will be aired
locally. Once recorded, I'll be uploading it onto my site and
also YouTube. (There are a half-dozen on the HEAL site
now, and three on YouTube. To find them on YouTube,
search: Ilene Wolf HEAL.)

Much love to all.

Some idears for your show:

Parents working to teach their kids about healthy relationships at an early age.
How to raise a narcissist and how NOT to raise a narcissist.
How to NOT raise an overindulged child.
How to practice and create healthy self-esteem.
How to recognize an abusive relationship.
What can you do for a friend or family member who is in an abusive relationship.
How to leave and abusive relationship.
How to divorce an abuser.
Would love to hear about overcoming spousal abuse from a male perspective.
Dealing with abusive parents and siblings.
Bullying in schools.

I wish you luck with your new project...I know whatever you do it will be wonderful. ;-)

Ilene:

I agree that your ideas work out well because you have a lot of great insights. My only suggestion is that you talk about how sexual abuse effects the abused, so that people know how us survivors are effected by the abuse-( i have heard of stories where people "laugh off"stories of sexual abuse or people say the victim "asked for it"). Good luck with this.

Tom B. aka Ihman

Thank you all, again.

Wow, IhMan ----- that's so awful.

I have copied and filed all your responses
for use going forward. If you have any
additional thoughts, please make sure
you post them or send them to me.

As they're recorded I'll keep you in the loop.

I would like to see something on traumatic bonding. It still amazes me that I was always waiting for and clinging to those crumbs of kindness after an abusive episode. When I should have turned and ran and never looked back.