Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I stood my ground and left my husband today. Yesterday, he got my mom and 2 brothers to bash me and later forced me to write down everything that is "his" (aka all the expensive electronics stuff).
I just woke up this morning, called my girlfriend, and left for her house. While I was gathering my baby\'s stuff, he called my brother to tell him that I\'m making up some more stuff to "whoever I was talking to on the phone" (He knew it was my friend).
I just came back to the apartment and he\'s nowhere to be found. I do need someone to watch the baby while I\'m at work, but my girlfriend said she would do it.
I calculated that I would have enough money by the end of the month to get a divorce. I really need a divorce because I want to make sure I\'m financially protected. Still, I feel so sad though. He didn\'t even care enough to call and ask about me or the baby and it\'s been 7 hours since I last seen him.
I just woke up this morning, called my girlfriend, and left for her house. While I was gathering my baby\'s stuff, he called my brother to tell him that I\'m making up some more stuff to "whoever I was talking to on the phone" (He knew it was my friend).
I just came back to the apartment and he\'s nowhere to be found. I do need someone to watch the baby while I\'m at work, but my girlfriend said she would do it.
I calculated that I would have enough money by the end of the month to get a divorce. I really need a divorce because I want to make sure I\'m financially protected. Still, I feel so sad though. He didn\'t even care enough to call and ask about me or the baby and it\'s been 7 hours since I last seen him.
I\'m sorry that you\'re not getting support from your family, but sounds like you\'ve got a very good friend to help. She is a treasure. Your stbx sounds like he\'s desperate, and it\'s typical that they try to round up the troops to get on their side while doing so. Hopefully, they\'ll be able to see he\'s a big fat liar....but in the meantime...
Just stay focused, and take care of some practical matters like joint bank accounts, etc, like you said -- to protect yourself. Of course it\'s a sad time, you have made a big move, but it\'s definitely a move in the right direction. Hang in there! (hugs)
Easy to decide to go, hard to actually go, and even harder to stay gone. BUT you can...Strong determination, Strong support support, and stay busy.
He hasnt called and asked becuz his only concern is himself and how he looks in everyone elses eyes...He dare look like the bad guy.
My therapist told me that the people in your life who can not support a life changing decision for you, and only critize need to be cut out. They are very unhealthy and detrimental to the success of whatever the change is that your trying to make...
So for whomever doesnt support it, get rd of them too. Look at it as a cleaning house type thing....Out with the bad, onto the good..
I hope you find a peaceful place to exist until you are totally free of him.
There are shelters and councelors that could help you, as well.