I wouldn't be surprised, but again I really wouldn't understand all of the stress you had gone through with your abuser.

Leaving an abusive relationship is difficult, but being alone can feel worse. All your happily married friends are still happily married, and here you are suddenly single. Its a huge adjustment. Even though youve triumphed by getting out of a bad situation, theres often an underlying sense of failure. Theres enormous pressure to be a couple in this society.





Loneliness: It is not uncommon to feel loneliness, or a fear of loneliness, after leaving an abusive relationship. The isolation often imposed by abusers can leave us feeling alone and disconnected. An abuser may have tried to convince us that no one will want us or that we are unacceptable. We may fear being alone the rest of our life. This is a good time to connect to the family of God. A support group can be a big help.

Depression: We may cry easily or feel sad all the time. We may have trouble sleeping, or feel like sleeping all the time. It may be hard to enjoy the things we used to, or it may be difficult to make decisions. Talking with someone about our feelings and issues can help, and we may need to do so repeatedly. Some find that medication can help them weather this difficult time.

AND REMEMBER, WE ARE ALL HERE FOR YOU, SO IF YOU HAVE TO TALK JUST COME BACK ON D.S

~Hang in there~

Increasing confidence: Things we thought we couldn't do, we find we can. Our confidence increases as we tackle new challenges.

Self-discovery: Where once we may have had to focus on the demands of our abuser, we now find our own preferences, talents, and uniqueness.

Rediscovery: No, you didn't really lose those parts of yourself. They were only sleeping. You may be surprised as they pop up when you least expect it.

New possibilities: Where once we thought there could be no life after a relationship, we now start to get glimpses of new possibilities, and of the immensity of our God.

For many victims of domestic violence, the first anniversary of their leaving is often painful. Be aware of this and be sure to plan for it. Arrange to spend time with family members or close friends. You might also want to contact the battered women's shelter or crisis center in your community and ask for reinforcement and support.

Hi, thank you for all of your help Andrea. I'm exhausted from today. I appreciate so much all of the effort you made here typing this out for me. I know I'm in an awful situation that just gets deeper. It's like hell. Everytime I fix something.. he doesn't appreciate it.. he brings me down everyday with criticism etc. He can't thank me for anything. He seems to enjoy when I'm depressed. He is unable to handle legal situations, he is not good at math, and I had to carry most of today on my shoulders. Reading contracts etc. Making sure everything is organized... inusrance payed you know all of the stuff to do with buying a home and moving. His way of saying thanks was in a sarcastic tone, he said " look at all you did by yourself... you did everything yourself". It was in such a way that it was actually a very unsympathetic tone. I cried a lot and my eyes are swollen. I think I'm going to try to sleep a while and process stuff then come back after a while and read some more. I feel better knowing there are good people on earth :D.. much better. thanks again, Sharon.

I just left a very abusive relationship myself and as these things go was more than a bit reluctant to leave no matter how bad it was....loliness is a big deterant but finding someone who will treat you with love and respect and take away your loliness is worth waiting for.
any one can be there but not everyone will be there for you.

Hon ----

Don't be confused.

Life with a narcissist
is the ULTIMATE HELL.

Poverty is a picnic
compared to
being together
with a narcissist.

You will end up feeling
like you're in the seventh
circle of the final hell.

DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You'd be surprised by what you can afford when you are on your own. Narcissists often use up a LOT of money on things they think they are entitled to. There are a lot of websites out there with information about how to budget and how to save money and there are a lot of people who live very successfully off a very small pension.

A narcissist will NOT provide you with safety. They will slowly destroy your mental and physical health. A pet rottweiler will keep you safer and give you more love than the man you are with.

Check with your bank or real estate agent. There may be a "cooling off" period in which you can get out of the paperwork that you signed.

I agree with what everyone has posted here.

I wonder if you were crying like that during the closing and everything, if you could't have a case where you could honestly claim you were in no frame of mind to make that kind of legal commitment. Just trying to think of a way you could get out of it.