Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I have been crying, and crying. I broke up with my emotionally abusive exboyfriend on July 6, 2009. So it been almost two years with absolutely no contact. I read through my journals that I wrote when the break-up was still fresh. I was so confused, tired, and weak from all of the emotional abuse that he put me through.
We were together for a year a month and ten days. Out of all the boyfriends and the husband I have ever had, my exboyfriend was the worst!! He spent almost all of his money and time on his looks. He would get 60- dollar haircuts, and go to a very expensive gym, and he rode a very expensive bike to go biking, he spent a small fortune on cologne all different brands, and bought new clothes, shoes, hats, socks almost every single day, he spent hundreds of dollars going to health food stores and bought very expensive hygiene products and vitamins. He would change clothes about 8 or 9 times a day, before he found the perfect outfit to manipulate people with. He lived in the best neighborhood, drove a luxury sports car, the list goes on.
Not that any of this was a crime, but her was sooo conceited, and snobby, and rude, and mean. He went on a luxury vacation cruise without me for a couple of weeks June of 2009, and was never the same when he came back. He kept talking about a woman he met on the cruise and how wonderful she was, he even showed me pictures of her.
He told me I could not wear my engagement ring bc it had no insurance, then he told me he was moving, and I could not be on the new lease- to just go find an apartment, that I was only allowed to spend 3 nights a week with him.
I wanted to be with a man that wanted to be with me for me. He would even go out to bars and hang out by himself. He was very critical of me, He did not like the way I dressed, he said I needed to show more skin, and wear tighter clothes. I cooked for him, cleaned for him, loved him, for over a year, and he says he wants to date other women also. Our relationshiip was OVER.
Now, two years later, I think about the flowers, the cards, the letters, the voice-mails. I cry. I hurt. I gave him all... and I gave him so much of me. Then to just feel thrown away. I don't know why he stopped loving me, because at one time, I think he really did love me. I have had too much dignity to chase him. I have had absolutely no contact for two years, well except one time a long time ago, I left him a stupid voice mail. He didn't return my call, but told his friend I called. That was about it.
I've been crying and hurting, and wishing I could move past this pain. I have to continue no contact to stay stable and normal, not that he would talk to me any way. He was very emotionally abusive. He ran a tight ship. Everything always had to be a certain way, or he would throw a temper tantrum. Goodbye to him. Still crying and hurting because of all of the manipulation and strife. Any advice on how to truly move on, and not have a broken heart anymore???
We were together for a year a month and ten days. Out of all the boyfriends and the husband I have ever had, my exboyfriend was the worst!! He spent almost all of his money and time on his looks. He would get 60- dollar haircuts, and go to a very expensive gym, and he rode a very expensive bike to go biking, he spent a small fortune on cologne all different brands, and bought new clothes, shoes, hats, socks almost every single day, he spent hundreds of dollars going to health food stores and bought very expensive hygiene products and vitamins. He would change clothes about 8 or 9 times a day, before he found the perfect outfit to manipulate people with. He lived in the best neighborhood, drove a luxury sports car, the list goes on.
Not that any of this was a crime, but her was sooo conceited, and snobby, and rude, and mean. He went on a luxury vacation cruise without me for a couple of weeks June of 2009, and was never the same when he came back. He kept talking about a woman he met on the cruise and how wonderful she was, he even showed me pictures of her.
He told me I could not wear my engagement ring bc it had no insurance, then he told me he was moving, and I could not be on the new lease- to just go find an apartment, that I was only allowed to spend 3 nights a week with him.
I wanted to be with a man that wanted to be with me for me. He would even go out to bars and hang out by himself. He was very critical of me, He did not like the way I dressed, he said I needed to show more skin, and wear tighter clothes. I cooked for him, cleaned for him, loved him, for over a year, and he says he wants to date other women also. Our relationshiip was OVER.
Now, two years later, I think about the flowers, the cards, the letters, the voice-mails. I cry. I hurt. I gave him all... and I gave him so much of me. Then to just feel thrown away. I don't know why he stopped loving me, because at one time, I think he really did love me. I have had too much dignity to chase him. I have had absolutely no contact for two years, well except one time a long time ago, I left him a stupid voice mail. He didn't return my call, but told his friend I called. That was about it.
I've been crying and hurting, and wishing I could move past this pain. I have to continue no contact to stay stable and normal, not that he would talk to me any way. He was very emotionally abusive. He ran a tight ship. Everything always had to be a certain way, or he would throw a temper tantrum. Goodbye to him. Still crying and hurting because of all of the manipulation and strife. Any advice on how to truly move on, and not have a broken heart anymore???
It's ok to cry and feel what you're feeling.
I hope that you will be able to move on soon and find somebody that will truly love you and treasure you!
Big hugs