Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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mildred71 03/26/2009

what do you think of guys that blame
their partner,
that say
she caused
the emotional abuse?

IleneW 03/26/2009

What do YOU think?

hockeymom5592 03/26/2009

I think that they are not accountable for anything to anyone, that they are so great in their own warped minds that they deserve to have everyone performing exactly the way they want, and when these people DON"t perform the way the abuser wants, the abuser has every right to become furious and abusive, and it is the victim's fault for not being exactly what the abuser wanted at that moment. Because after all, the abuser is the ruler of the world, doncha know?

Of course the victim is to blame. They didn't walk in a straight enough line, they disagreed with their abuser, they weren't happy when they discovered he'd been lying, they took too much of the covers on the bed, they talked to loud, they didn't talk loud enough......

Gosh, I am SO GLAD to be FREE.......

deleted_user 03/26/2009

I think its typical. Thats what abusers do... blame anyone but themselves.

MyTrueColors 03/26/2009

It's a crock and a cop out.

deleted_user 03/26/2009

How could anyone cause their own abuse by anyone else? Do they have puppet strings connected, mind control intstrumentation installed, or was it a gun they held to their head, insisting that they would be shot, if they did not abuse them???
So, what do I think of guys that say "she" caused the emotional abuse? Hmmm... How to say this..... #1 They are not in control of themselves in any way (All I have to do is push this little button to make you "Freak" out?). #2 They are totally immature. #3 They do not know how to take responsibility for anything. #4 They hate themselves and are projecting that onto the person that they feel they can dominate. (What would it take to get them to respond that way in any other situation - like to their boss?)
I could go on, but I won't. I think that these "guys" are lower than shit. They need counseling, which, usually they won't go to, because they would rather have an evisceration than examine the messed up crap in their psyches.
"It wasn't my fault! She made/makes me do it!" Sound like any 3 year olds you know???? That's where their emotional age is frozen. And, they like it that way.

gramybear 03/26/2009

I THINK THEY NEED SERIOUS HELP. THEY SHOULD SAY THOSE WORDS WHILE LOOKING INTO A MIRROR.

deleted_user 03/27/2009

I say that its crazy making.

My ex did this to me. Near the end, I turned the tables on him and he didn't like it very much. Awww poor baby.

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