Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
hi, i'm sarah.
i will try to make this short. but anyway, 3 years ago i met this really nice guy and he was reallly really sweet. then he finally asked me out. after a week of going out he said he loved me, which i found very strange and it made me kind of uncomfortable. i knew i didn't love him but i said i did anyway. so it started out great, about a month into it he got very controlling, i then started having panic attacks everyday and i got very depressed because i didn't understand how he could yell at me all the time. he yelled at me and told me i was a bad girlfriend because i had guy friends. i should have known he was a bad guy because if we walked by someone in a wheelchair or if there was anything physically or mentally wrong with them he would make fun of them so loudly that they could hear us. well he basically said that no one else would ever love me like he did and i needed to stay with him or i would be alone forever. after 6 months of dealing with that, i met another guy and he liked me so i felt like maybe i was worth something. when i tried to dump my boyfriend for that guy, he said no. i didn't know what to do and then he shoved me to the ground. so i just got over it because i didn;t know what to do. but the other guy told me to dump him now, so i did and he was very upset. so i was going out with the other guy but still trying to be friends with my ex and he yelled at me all the time if i didn't talk to him for at least an hour or if i didn't tell him where i was going. it was like he still thought we were going out, and then i told him we couldn't be friends and he left me alone. then my bf dumped me for not having sex with him, the next one cheated on me, so i was alone. then i started going out with my best friend, who is my boyfriend now, and everything was all good and happy until my abusive ex called me. now he is telling me how perfect i am and how his new gf is fat and looks like a clown. well i didn't want to hear that so after a year of talking to him again, not liking him just talking, i changed my numbers.
i am so angry because he brought out all these new problems. panic attacks, low self esteem, anxiety, fear of people, depression, dissociation, and i could have avoided all of that if i had just dumped him the first time i wanted to after a month.
i am now focusing on getting my self esteem back and working on all of my problems. it's getting better, but do you ever fully get over all of the pain and the anger?
i will try to make this short. but anyway, 3 years ago i met this really nice guy and he was reallly really sweet. then he finally asked me out. after a week of going out he said he loved me, which i found very strange and it made me kind of uncomfortable. i knew i didn't love him but i said i did anyway. so it started out great, about a month into it he got very controlling, i then started having panic attacks everyday and i got very depressed because i didn't understand how he could yell at me all the time. he yelled at me and told me i was a bad girlfriend because i had guy friends. i should have known he was a bad guy because if we walked by someone in a wheelchair or if there was anything physically or mentally wrong with them he would make fun of them so loudly that they could hear us. well he basically said that no one else would ever love me like he did and i needed to stay with him or i would be alone forever. after 6 months of dealing with that, i met another guy and he liked me so i felt like maybe i was worth something. when i tried to dump my boyfriend for that guy, he said no. i didn't know what to do and then he shoved me to the ground. so i just got over it because i didn;t know what to do. but the other guy told me to dump him now, so i did and he was very upset. so i was going out with the other guy but still trying to be friends with my ex and he yelled at me all the time if i didn't talk to him for at least an hour or if i didn't tell him where i was going. it was like he still thought we were going out, and then i told him we couldn't be friends and he left me alone. then my bf dumped me for not having sex with him, the next one cheated on me, so i was alone. then i started going out with my best friend, who is my boyfriend now, and everything was all good and happy until my abusive ex called me. now he is telling me how perfect i am and how his new gf is fat and looks like a clown. well i didn't want to hear that so after a year of talking to him again, not liking him just talking, i changed my numbers.
i am so angry because he brought out all these new problems. panic attacks, low self esteem, anxiety, fear of people, depression, dissociation, and i could have avoided all of that if i had just dumped him the first time i wanted to after a month.
i am now focusing on getting my self esteem back and working on all of my problems. it's getting better, but do you ever fully get over all of the pain and the anger?
It does get better with time and not having any contact with an abuser.
Make certain you are around people who treat you with respect. Love yourself first, everyone else can wait.
i am pulling away from my friends too because they treat me badly also, but i do have a great boyfriend and my parents and his family are great too, so i have good people for now. i'm in therapy to try to work everything out and my boyfriend comes with me and i am starting to feel better, mainly just very angry now.
To get your self-esteem back make sure you only mix with kind people who are good for you.
Well done for having courage for finding nice boyfriend.
i do need new friends though because my old friends didn't help.
but my boyfriend now is good. i didn't want to like him at first because he was too nice and i thought he would turn bad too, but he hasn't. 8]