I am very confused. I started reading "Why does he do that" and now I am more confused then I was before. I now know that I am living with an abuser, but now I am not sure what to do about it. I have children and need to make a change for them, but am too scared. I work part time as a preschool teacher and do not make enough money to support myself and my two sons. I feel as if I can not count on him to pay child support and so I am not sure how I am to make it. I also do not have the money for an attorney and I know that his mother will supply one for him as she did so in his last divorce from his daughter's mother and took custody away from her. I do not want to loose my boys but yet they are learning how to be abusers from him. I feel like such a screw up that I never saw the signs before. Now though, I look at men around me and can pick out abusive qualities about them.