Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
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Happy New Year in advance to everyone. Please forgive me for the colorful language but it makes me feel better. lol
It's been 6 months since my daughter and I left her dad. I prayed but knew he would continue to be an asshole to her. But he is an even bigger one. I just want to smack the shit out of him but he isn't worth it. He doesn't know where either of us are. They talk over text MAYBE once or two a month. And almost every goddamn time he is whinning about either not feeling well, or sad that he can't see or talk to her every day, or he has to see how much money he has left after he pay bills if she asks him for money.
First the fuck of all, he has ALWAYS paid rent ... we split ALL the household blls 50/50 from the first time we moved in together when our kid was 2 years old. So he can miss me with that shit. When we were planning to disappear I knew he could afford to stay in the house we were renting so he can miss me with that sob story. She often wants to say "my mom is paying for two places (her dorm and our apt) but she doesn't even respond to that bullshit anymore.
Second, when we all lived together he didn't see or talk to her everyday. And even though we live seperately her goddamn phone works so if he really missed her he would be calling/texting every day but of course he is not.
Since we have been gone whenever he texts her he always says shit like "daddy got you", call her sweetie or daddy's little give!!! That would be fine if he always talked to her like that. HE DIDN'T so that's the added asshole bit i mentioned earlier. Call her by her name like you always have. And he has never been a daddy ... he is her father ... BIG DAMN DIFFERENCE!!!
He is such a drama queen and worhtless piece of shit. I regret every single moment spent with him besides the time it took to create my daughter.
Before we left everyday i got closer and closer to losing my freedom because i just wanted to shut him up. And he was getting increasingly unstable and i was afraid i was going to have to defend us. He used all these damn theatrics like he gave a fuck about either of us but didn't .... just didn't want anyone else to have us.
He knows she is in college but doesn't know where. And doesn't care how she is in college (finanically). The week before Thanksgiving she asked him for $60 to buy food for her dorm. He told her yes but NEVER gave her the money. They had to the nerve to ask what kind of food she was planning on getting. THAT almost got him fucked up. I still live in the same state as him and it took everything in me to not go to his job the cuss his ass out. What kind of idiot asks that? The kind of food you eat. But we had only been gone 4-5 months and he knows clearly how she eats and she is a chef on top of that. Thank god we were not depending on that money from him.
When we left I told her that if she wanted to ask him for money she could but to not depend on him for shit (which she already knew) because i could take care of all her needs and wants like I always had. and that i didn't want her getting her hopes up and then i have to go off cuz she is hurt.
I don't hate him because he isn't worth it but don't give too fucks about him.
Thanks for letting me vent. We talk about him when she wants to vent but that's still her dad so i watch what i say about him to her out of respect for her. But i know she knows how i really feel. And knows she is the only reason he is still breathing.
It's been 6 months since my daughter and I left her dad. I prayed but knew he would continue to be an asshole to her. But he is an even bigger one. I just want to smack the shit out of him but he isn't worth it. He doesn't know where either of us are. They talk over text MAYBE once or two a month. And almost every goddamn time he is whinning about either not feeling well, or sad that he can't see or talk to her every day, or he has to see how much money he has left after he pay bills if she asks him for money.
First the fuck of all, he has ALWAYS paid rent ... we split ALL the household blls 50/50 from the first time we moved in together when our kid was 2 years old. So he can miss me with that shit. When we were planning to disappear I knew he could afford to stay in the house we were renting so he can miss me with that sob story. She often wants to say "my mom is paying for two places (her dorm and our apt) but she doesn't even respond to that bullshit anymore.
Second, when we all lived together he didn't see or talk to her everyday. And even though we live seperately her goddamn phone works so if he really missed her he would be calling/texting every day but of course he is not.
Since we have been gone whenever he texts her he always says shit like "daddy got you", call her sweetie or daddy's little give!!! That would be fine if he always talked to her like that. HE DIDN'T so that's the added asshole bit i mentioned earlier. Call her by her name like you always have. And he has never been a daddy ... he is her father ... BIG DAMN DIFFERENCE!!!
He is such a drama queen and worhtless piece of shit. I regret every single moment spent with him besides the time it took to create my daughter.
Before we left everyday i got closer and closer to losing my freedom because i just wanted to shut him up. And he was getting increasingly unstable and i was afraid i was going to have to defend us. He used all these damn theatrics like he gave a fuck about either of us but didn't .... just didn't want anyone else to have us.
He knows she is in college but doesn't know where. And doesn't care how she is in college (finanically). The week before Thanksgiving she asked him for $60 to buy food for her dorm. He told her yes but NEVER gave her the money. They had to the nerve to ask what kind of food she was planning on getting. THAT almost got him fucked up. I still live in the same state as him and it took everything in me to not go to his job the cuss his ass out. What kind of idiot asks that? The kind of food you eat. But we had only been gone 4-5 months and he knows clearly how she eats and she is a chef on top of that. Thank god we were not depending on that money from him.
When we left I told her that if she wanted to ask him for money she could but to not depend on him for shit (which she already knew) because i could take care of all her needs and wants like I always had. and that i didn't want her getting her hopes up and then i have to go off cuz she is hurt.
I don't hate him because he isn't worth it but don't give too fucks about him.
Thanks for letting me vent. We talk about him when she wants to vent but that's still her dad so i watch what i say about him to her out of respect for her. But i know she knows how i really feel. And knows she is the only reason he is still breathing.
Seriously, though I am SO glad you and your daughter are essentially free of that manchild.
Here's to a very happy and peaceful 2014!
Hope you feel a bit better now. Wish you and your daughter a happy 2014! xx
@ RockinBunny ... thanks hun. I do feel better. Happy 2014 to you as well.