Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Right now, I am so hurt, angry , confused......just flooded with emotions and I dont even know what to do....
Last Thurs. my sister and I got into a huge fight.....she got physical with me.....I have let her and her two kids move in with me because she was with an abusive man and need to get away from him....I was so happy to see her leaving him and loved having them UNTIL, she started seeing him again and even letting him back into the lives of my nieces...only 9 and 10....this was 2 and half months ago and I have tried to understand that she is addicted to him or whatever....
There is a lot of other stuff going too, to much to get into....
She wrote me a letter and left it on my car tonight continuing to get her two cents in, about all that she has done for me ect.......I just dont know what to...do i write her a letter back stating how I feel and make her as angry as she made me tonight or just keep it all in for the sake of my nieces?
Its so hard to be the strong one!!! Oh and she also ran to our cousin....my bestfriend and told her everything she thought of me and all that happened that night.....I was not going to take this to the family but SHE DID, how can I ever again trust someone like her!!!!!! My cousin knows she is full of it....she is the one still with an abusive man....ect.
I may have my faults but I DO NOT HAVE KIDS!!!!!!
But I have to face her tomorrow and not sure how I am going to cope, what I am going to say??????
I am glad to have my nieces back in a safe place but she has all the control to take them away again.....I hate this and really wish I could tell her how I felt....I cant, she cant handle it!!!!!!
I dont understand why she is still choosing to stay with her abusive boyfriend? Though she is smart enough not to go back living with him....FOR NOW
Posted on 08/12/08, 12:08 am
Last Thurs. my sister and I got into a huge fight.....she got physical with me.....I have let her and her two kids move in with me because she was with an abusive man and need to get away from him....I was so happy to see her leaving him and loved having them UNTIL, she started seeing him again and even letting him back into the lives of my nieces...only 9 and 10....this was 2 and half months ago and I have tried to understand that she is addicted to him or whatever....
There is a lot of other stuff going too, to much to get into....
She wrote me a letter and left it on my car tonight continuing to get her two cents in, about all that she has done for me ect.......I just dont know what to...do i write her a letter back stating how I feel and make her as angry as she made me tonight or just keep it all in for the sake of my nieces?
Its so hard to be the strong one!!! Oh and she also ran to our cousin....my bestfriend and told her everything she thought of me and all that happened that night.....I was not going to take this to the family but SHE DID, how can I ever again trust someone like her!!!!!! My cousin knows she is full of it....she is the one still with an abusive man....ect.
I may have my faults but I DO NOT HAVE KIDS!!!!!!
But I have to face her tomorrow and not sure how I am going to cope, what I am going to say??????
I am glad to have my nieces back in a safe place but she has all the control to take them away again.....I hate this and really wish I could tell her how I felt....I cant, she cant handle it!!!!!!
I dont understand why she is still choosing to stay with her abusive boyfriend? Though she is smart enough not to go back living with him....FOR NOW
Posted on 08/12/08, 12:08 am
She needs to put them first. She was strong enough to leave, but it is still very hard to stay away. Is the bf the father of your nieces? Can she change her cell phone number (she should be able to for no charge if there are harassing calls)? Can you block calls from his number? She really needs to be able to cut communication with him.
Was he violent when she left? Do you feel safe with her and the kids there? She may be able to get an order of protection, or you can if he has been on your property and has threatened you or those living with you.
Sorry, I know this is kind of jumbled, but I hope you can make sense of it. Good luck and post and let us know how things are going.
She is also right that if you, her, your neices or your property is in danger or has been threatened, you need to get an order of protection so that he doesn't show up unexpectedly and if he does, you can have him arrested.
Also, contact your local DV shelter and ask them about counseling programs that might be available in your area for her. She DOES need to "detox" from him, and that will only happen if she cuts off and refuses contact with him. If he is the father of the children, that will be harder, because he will have some visitation rights without a restaining order.
Cibolo - you may have felt like your comments were jumbled, but they were full of good ideas.