Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group

Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.

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needafriendplease 10/15/2013

Today I saw my solicitor to start divorce proceedings. I felt sad but it had to be done. Since I've been home my husband has been ringing me. I haven't answered the phone. Then he texted to ask if I'm ok and that he is worried about me because we haven't spoken for ages. Do I tell him I've been to sort the divorce or say nothing? When we split up he asked me if I go for a divorce to tell him. I'm trying not to talk to him or see him in case I weaken. What should I do?

Itsaboutmeinlv 10/15/2013

Say nothing to him. Stop the insanity today. Clear your mind and look forward to a new life. You answer him and that will start the emotions back up. Your divorcing him for a reason. Remember those reasons.

deleted_user 10/15/2013

Is there any way you can go somewhere... on a vacation, or something? Wouldn't anything be better than being near that phone?

needafriendplease 10/15/2013

My phone is a business line. And my business is quite new. Can't really go away. I haven't answered him.

deleted_user 10/15/2013

I don't know your whole story as I'm new here... but if you're sure you want a divorce, stay strong. It takes months to recover but eventually you will, and so will he. I'm so sorry about all the pain you're going through.

IleneW 10/15/2013

I'd text him that I've begun
divorce proceedings and
all further communication
should go through (insert
the name of your lawyer).

When he responds,
(and of course, he will),
I would NOT reply.

FarAndAway 10/15/2013

It's tough when he seems to just be caring about you. He's probably just wondering why you aren't obsessing over him and wants to get a reaction. I think Ilene's suggestion is a good one. Personally, I think I would just not respond at all.

needafriendplease 10/15/2013

I havent heard from him since earlier. since the texts im feeling vunerable again, I am driving myself mad thinking i miss him when i know i shouldnt. my spirits are low all over again

deleted_user 10/15/2013

My theory is that the separation is a good idea. If he is to change it will take several years. Until then... you could get a divorce, and if by miracle he's one of those who can change, get remarried later. Maybe you could tell him that. If I ever hear from my ex that's what I'll say to him; I have no interest in having him living in my home again at this point... but I would love to see him try to change.

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