Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
My boyfriend will be all cool when hes around other people, reassuring, and tell me he just wants to talk. as soon as i get off the phone with someone or get away from people. he\'ll scream at me and push me down or spit on me.
What is his problem? there has to be a reason why he acts like this. He was beaten by his dad when he was little but hes always telling me he doesnt want to be like his dad and grandfather who were abusive of their kids and wives. hes not as bad as they were but I\'m afraid if he doesnt get help it will not stop.
I\'m also 19 weeks pregnant with his kid and I want this to work but i also dont want to feel like hes going to trap me.
He\'ll go and hang with his friends and ill only ask a few questions but when i go somewhere with mine, its 21 questions and accusations. its frustrating because ive had these friends all my life and they are my FRIENDS! I feel like hes taking over things i like to do and i let him because i want him to trust me.
im just getting sick of it all. i dont need him to raise a kid. I dont need him to pay the bills or anything. I could do it all alone. and sometimes i think id better off. he just has me wrapped around his finger so much i forget if there may be something better for me out there. maybe not another man but another life in general.
can someone please tell me if theres a certain counceling for people like him. i cant live like this forever.
What is his problem? there has to be a reason why he acts like this. He was beaten by his dad when he was little but hes always telling me he doesnt want to be like his dad and grandfather who were abusive of their kids and wives. hes not as bad as they were but I\'m afraid if he doesnt get help it will not stop.
I\'m also 19 weeks pregnant with his kid and I want this to work but i also dont want to feel like hes going to trap me.
He\'ll go and hang with his friends and ill only ask a few questions but when i go somewhere with mine, its 21 questions and accusations. its frustrating because ive had these friends all my life and they are my FRIENDS! I feel like hes taking over things i like to do and i let him because i want him to trust me.
im just getting sick of it all. i dont need him to raise a kid. I dont need him to pay the bills or anything. I could do it all alone. and sometimes i think id better off. he just has me wrapped around his finger so much i forget if there may be something better for me out there. maybe not another man but another life in general.
can someone please tell me if theres a certain counceling for people like him. i cant live like this forever.
You will be better off. the best thing to do is cut him out completely, NO CONTACT so that he cannot trap you with his bs. Abuse gets worse over time, think about your baby. do you want your baby raised in an environment where he/she will see what daddy is doing? it will affect them for the rest of their lives.
I know from experience. Growing up in it and now im married to a man who is emotionally abusive. Please please
Its hard, but doable. Many, many of us here are single parents. I have raised 3 kids virtually alone. It was hard, and sometimes i sacrificed alot to make it happen but it can be done.
Bottom line.....There is no fixing him, he's broke.
Good luck to you.
Know these basic things. Abuse is about Power and Control. Abuse always gets worse. Abuse never gets better. The only way to make it stop for sure is to leave the abuser.
We have all been there.....we are all singing the same song. Leave before your child's life is ruined....
I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Many hugs, and prayers for you.
If you have a baby with this person, both you and any children you have with him, will be abused and possibly killed.
There is no counseling that can help him.
I'm sorry if this is harsh. Yes, you are young. If you don't walk away now, you may never get any older. Abusers abuse. Some abusers kill. Anyone who can scream at, push down and spit on his pregnant partner, can potentially kill.
And as hockeymom said: Don't ask why. It's the way it is. It can't be fixed. If you hang around for more, you will get more and you will get worse. You and the baby may be injured or killed. That's who they are. That's what they do.
Please leave now. As a mother-to-be you're responsible for another life. Don't bring an innocent child into the home of an abuser. It's no way to live ---- if they let you live.
You're pregnant. You and the baby are in a very, very unsafe situation. Please, instead of waiting for him to change or wondering if he is going to- get out. Leave his ass and file a restraining order. This isn't normal. People don't DO this to each other. And no matter what you say to him or no matter how hard you beg, he won't stop. ONLY if he thinks you are going to leave will he PRETEND he is going to stop. And then he won't.
As long as you stay with him, you are going to endure abuse. The sooner you leave him, the quicker it all ends and you can move on to a non abuser when you want to.