Your mother is hoping
that you'll believe her
when she's telling you
that your enthusiasm,
passion and enjoyment
in participating in choirs
will be perceived by the
choir master as OFFENSIVE.

She is hoping that you'll
believe something that is
totally ILLOGICAL.

Enthusiasm, passion
and enjoyment in the
act of making music
is what makes your
choir master GET
OUT OF BED every
morning. Enthusiasm,
passion and enjoyment
are longed for and
TREASURED by artists
like your choir master. . .

NOT perceived as an
offensive annoyance.

Your mother is atttempting
another tactic to
divert you from
the thing that
makes you YOU.

SHAME on her.

Just another example
of her abusive behavior.

Not merely a diverting tactic, but I'd wager an attempt to make you ashamed of a) something which brings you joy, b) connecting with other people, and c) yourself.

There is no shame in singing, in having fun, with connecting to others, or in self-care. My wife made it a point to stifle my music, to the point that my 3yo son still occasionally tells me to stop singing.

My mom won't stop. Keeps on telling me I'm obsessive with choir. She says me volunteering to help do something in choir is my way of sucking up to the teacher and get attention.

It means your mother is being who she is. It means she's going to always be who she is. It means she is sick. It means she is not being what a mother is supposed to be.

It doesn't mean anything about you!

Her actions and her words are ONLY a reflection of her sick self and have nothing to do with you.

I bet she senses she is about to lose her 'control' over you and so she's ramping up her nasty comments.

You don't have to let her dictate how you feel. You can choose to not take her words to heart. Because they are NOT TRUE!!!!!

What she says about & to you have absolutely nothing to do with you but everything to do with her.

She is not emotionally healthy and more than likely is an alcoholic. Alcohol takes over a person's brain, personality, emotions & spirit and as long as she chooses to not get help, she will not change other than to get worse.

The sooner you can get out the better. But until them, just keep telling yourself that your mother's brain is off kilter and what she says may be her truth, but it's not yours.

And follow your dreams!!!

I am in total agreement with everything everyone posted before me. Sing, child, sing.

I don't know what else to do. I'm numb now.

IMHO, your mother is a very unhappy woman who is jealous of you for finding happiness, so she is trying to destroy it. Sing all you want, and don't let her stop you.

All above speak truth to you on this.

GL!

Thanks. I love everyone on here who's helped me. It means a lot.

""""""""""""""""""' I don't know what else to do."""""""""""""""""""""


There are many, many
responsees by many
of us on your multiple
threads, with suggestions.


""""""""""""""""""""""I'm numb now."""""""""""""""""""""""

That;s the body's
protective response
to being abused.


Legally, you're an adult, now.

As a legal adult, you're
responsible for yourself.

A place for you to start
is to go back and reread
the responses to your posts.

If you don't understand
the suggestions,
PM me, and I'll
answer any of
your questions.

Ok.