Hi all, my name is Suzy and I am here on the referral of a friend. I'm excited to get some online support as I have a need for a support and an opportunity to spend some time on the computer. I am currently going through what has felt like a lengthy breakup with a boyfriend of one year. It has been significant for me, and this time it feels like the end. I have used a book that has benefited me for about 10 years, The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. I just recently read another by her, Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out. It has been the only thing I can really identify with in my situation. I have had the good fortune of getting counseling from a battered womans center, which was monumental for me in getting over a previous relationship that ended nearly 4 years ago. I will mention that this relationship is my first now that I have entered recovery for addiction, so it is a chance to practice the tools I've learned realistically, before in my addictive lifestyle I wasn't of the right mind to care for myself. I do feel empowered that at this point in the breakup I am accepting his leaving me as God doing for me what I couldn't do for myself, as it has been bad enough to leave for a long time and I didn't choose that way to cope. The emotional abuse has left me feeling very withdrawn and has hurt my self esteem. I have continued to accept blame for his mistreatment of me, which has been a way to try to keep the peace. I realize by calling him on his mistreatment, I am doing the best I can for both of us, his unwillingness to recognize it is what is the reason that it ought not continue. Thanks for reading up on this. Question - Any one else read those books?
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