Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Hi all, my name is Suzy and I am here on the referral of a friend. I'm excited to get some online support as I have a need for a support and an opportunity to spend some time on the computer. I am currently going through what has felt like a lengthy breakup with a boyfriend of one year. It has been significant for me, and this time it feels like the end. I have used a book that has benefited me for about 10 years, The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans. I just recently read another by her, Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out. It has been the only thing I can really identify with in my situation. I have had the good fortune of getting counseling from a battered womans center, which was monumental for me in getting over a previous relationship that ended nearly 4 years ago. I will mention that this relationship is my first now that I have entered recovery for addiction, so it is a chance to practice the tools I've learned realistically, before in my addictive lifestyle I wasn't of the right mind to care for myself. I do feel empowered that at this point in the breakup I am accepting his leaving me as God doing for me what I couldn't do for myself, as it has been bad enough to leave for a long time and I didn't choose that way to cope. The emotional abuse has left me feeling very withdrawn and has hurt my self esteem. I have continued to accept blame for his mistreatment of me, which has been a way to try to keep the peace. I realize by calling him on his mistreatment, I am doing the best I can for both of us, his unwillingness to recognize it is what is the reason that it ought not continue. Thanks for reading up on this. Question - Any one else read those books?
queenvalerie
Can't say i have, but the two i have read are Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them and Healing from Post-Traumatic Stress. Both are highly recommended by me!
deleted_user
I looked up the book. sounds like i could have used it years ago, but my mother is, thankfullly (I know its awful) dead. but her legacy stands. Read Toxic Parents, really helped. but need to get through the brainwashing I received. I am 56. maybe its too late to change my spots.
Loved1
When my long day was over I settled into bed and cried, felt those uncomfortable feelings of sadness, loss, disappointment. I got one text message that he's thinking of me. I am in that vulnerable spot where I could whatever, just try to go through whatever it is I kept trying to do which was communicate with someone who prevents any sort of intimacy in communcication by practicing verbal and emotional abuse. It's time for me to get closure without him. I can do that just for today, plan to not engage him in any sort of attempt to reconcile or get closure or heal from our disagreements. I can do it on my own without the one who has so mistreated me and denied it. I can do it and I need the support to maintain my strength to uphold my dignity.
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