Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
Just got chewed out by a friend and coworker. I messed up, and we really had to scramble to get together the props I needed. I vented my frustrations, and she took offense. Now she wants a retraction.
I told her I felt she was being very aggressive, and not being very respectful of my needs. She dodged and evaded. Every time I made a point, she dismissed it as 'irrelevant to the conversation'
I admitted I was ultimately the one most at fault, but I denied all the fault - the director could have followed up with me as easily as I could have followed up with him.
In the past, she's expressed that no matter her personal feelings, once one of us becomes a threat to the company, she'll make whatever choices to protect the company she has to. Yesterday, I sought reassurance that I hadn't messed up badly enough to trigger her kicking me out. She only responded 'We'll discuss it later.'
When I commented on how scared that made me, her only response was that I clearly didn't know her very well, and that my paranoia and hyper defensiveness were tearing our relationship apart. And that she didn't care to be analyzed by me when I pointed out her evasions and blame shifting.
I feel I'm right, but this company is the only source of positivity left in my life. Working on shows with them has me able to express myself creatively, interact with joyful people, tasks to complete and goals to work for. I... I"m afraid of what I might do if it were taken from me, too, right now. My wife has betrayed me, my best friend hates me, I barely see my kids, my family would rather believe I'm a liar than listen to my concerns about my wife...
What good are interpersonal skills and boundaries if they simply drive people away?
I told her I felt she was being very aggressive, and not being very respectful of my needs. She dodged and evaded. Every time I made a point, she dismissed it as 'irrelevant to the conversation'
I admitted I was ultimately the one most at fault, but I denied all the fault - the director could have followed up with me as easily as I could have followed up with him.
In the past, she's expressed that no matter her personal feelings, once one of us becomes a threat to the company, she'll make whatever choices to protect the company she has to. Yesterday, I sought reassurance that I hadn't messed up badly enough to trigger her kicking me out. She only responded 'We'll discuss it later.'
When I commented on how scared that made me, her only response was that I clearly didn't know her very well, and that my paranoia and hyper defensiveness were tearing our relationship apart. And that she didn't care to be analyzed by me when I pointed out her evasions and blame shifting.
I feel I'm right, but this company is the only source of positivity left in my life. Working on shows with them has me able to express myself creatively, interact with joyful people, tasks to complete and goals to work for. I... I"m afraid of what I might do if it were taken from me, too, right now. My wife has betrayed me, my best friend hates me, I barely see my kids, my family would rather believe I'm a liar than listen to my concerns about my wife...
What good are interpersonal skills and boundaries if they simply drive people away?
Mine counseling focuses on each person being responsible for themselves. Of course, we're social, and everything gets mixed around, but when things start getting messy I've learned to sort of pull back and focus on myself.
If that helps!