Physical & Emotional Abuse Support Group
Abuse is a general term for the treatment of someone that causes some kind of harm (to the abused person, to the abusers themselves, or to someone else) that is unlawful or wrongful. No one deserves abuse, period. Abuse can be emotional, physical, or sexual.
I am finally, newly out of an emotionally abusive relationship, one of many in my life. I was raised with a lot of verbal and emotional abuse. I find myself second guessing myself and beating myself up for being imperfect. It is like I have internalized a critical voice. I need to come up with some positive affirmations to focus on when I find myself doing this... blaming self for others hurtfulness, feeling shameful for making mistakes, feeling unloveable and unworthy of loving or love.
Any ideas of good affirmations?
Thanks.
Any ideas of good affirmations?
Thanks.
Here are some that my therapist wrote for me:
1. not everyone has to like me. If someone doesn't like me or something I do, it's NOT the end of the world
2. Focus on making progress, not achieving perfection
3. What have I done today to validate myself for?
4. Argue against your harsh inner critic. Can you make fun of/laugh at how over the top your inner critic is?
#4 is a big one. i read an article in a magazine recently (maybe it was Self) about getting over your inner critic. The author created an identity for her critic and pictured this inner critic as a balding, acne-ridden bully who had no room to criticize. She gave him the name "Stan", complete with pocet protector. The article was very interestingly written and does hold promise for getting over this.
Good luck, and ((HUGS))