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Ok, so my ex boyfriend contacted me today at work. It showed a private number. He gave me a new story about how he had been busy trying to sell his last business and get the new one running. Thing is to get the new one running, the woman with the young child he brought to see me ( The woman I think he is dating) can't be a partner in his business because of legal loopholes. She would get into legal ramifications as she is already under contract with a title loan business. So she has to wait 2 years to be a partner, supposedly. Now until then, he has contacted a lawyer to see what to do. He had been advised to go half with her, hire another person and work there himself. Also to claim HER child (of which she has more than one, but I have only met the little girl) as dependant on taxes to get some of his money back.
Ok, what I don't understand is if he is going to make like $80,000.00 and give her half as she is not clearing much money, what is his benefit to claim her child and why would she do this? Also can't he get in trouble as the child has a father? Seen the man on facebook, so I know she does, unless the man just poses with the child and is her stepfather?
I do now my ex cannot have children.
I was always under the impression that to claim a child as a dependant you had to be related?
He said anyone can claim as long as the mother was ok with it. He said he has done it before?
And yes, I know I shouldn't even listen to him, but I am honestly baffled at this?
Ok, what I don't understand is if he is going to make like $80,000.00 and give her half as she is not clearing much money, what is his benefit to claim her child and why would she do this? Also can't he get in trouble as the child has a father? Seen the man on facebook, so I know she does, unless the man just poses with the child and is her stepfather?
I do now my ex cannot have children.
I was always under the impression that to claim a child as a dependant you had to be related?
He said anyone can claim as long as the mother was ok with it. He said he has done it before?
And yes, I know I shouldn't even listen to him, but I am honestly baffled at this?
I have no idea what he could or could not get in trouble for financially or legally speaking... but it seems like this guy would do anything to get what he wanted either way.
Claiming someone as a dependant on your taxes sounds fishy if you are not related, though, I agree. I guess it would depend on the mother's relationships with any of the other men in her and her daughter's life.
Whatever is going on, it sounds to me like he is using that child's presence to make money, or at the very least planning to. My guess is that he might pass her off as "one of the children I could never have", all the while raking in the $ he can get out of the tax link. Very fatherly, I must say :/
I honestly wouldn't think about him. If he wants to mess up his life, so be it. If that lady or child were to come to you and express suspicions, I would tell them the truth in case it would save them... but otherwise, there is zero you can do. He is just calling you to say this stuff because he needs an audience (or narcissistic supply).
If you pick up the phone again by accident and it's him, I would talk over the top of him and say, "Can you tell this rubbish to someone who actually cares? Because I don't give a sh*t." And hang up on him, never to answer the phone again.
Good luck xx
The best thing you can do is take care of yourself. Who cares what he does! I know you have feelings for him and that you worry, but honestly he is no longer your concern. He is not trying to build a life with you, to change or work on himself... He is just running around in cuckoo-land!! Let him be crazy, and focus on building a new life for yourself!
Oh, and if he does go to your house by himself and without your permission, that is trespassing. I am pretty sure homeowner's insurance doesn't cover injuries criminals have while on your property!! :)
I am sorry you are going through all of this.... Wish I could give you a big hug right now!!
I realize it is not my problem, I just don't know why he has to call and bother me about things like this when we are not even dating and I don't return his cell phone call? Why call work?
All it does is upset me because I may not like the way he lied and cheated on me but I honestly do not want him in jail.
Also when he says he is going to just come down to my place while I am at work and ride my horse because I tell him he can't, its unsafe..that scares me. Not only because I don't wish anyone to be hurt, including my horse, but I don't need a lawsuit or any type of legal problems.
Thank you all for your support. I so wish when I went to my dr for antibiotics and nausau stuff for my inability to eat, he would of given me something for anxiety as well. :(